57.0 Stories You Didn't Know About Fake Nice People. How To Handle Every Fake People Challenge With Ease Using These Tips.

I hope the previous post helps you to Identify Fake People up to some extent. As I'm not a genius on this subject, you all can be the contributors to these articles. Then I also can improve my skills and take the correct decisions. Finally, all of our views help somebody to Identify Toxic and Fake People. They will know the way that they need to deal with them. So, this is a service, friends!

Before moving into jobs, I forgot one incident. It happened when I was doing my higher studies. It was the start of my higher studies, and it was a Computer Course arranged for beginners. Just after finishing the Advanced Levels examination, I wanted to join that computer course. So, it was an exciting course, and I did not have a Computer at home even. I went with my mother for the course registration. On the very first day of the course, I went with my father. At that time, there was a young boy to manage the student's stuff. He was a Handsome Boy and had an innocent look.

 

So, when I was coming back home, I said about his innocence look to my father. But he had a different view. He said that he looked like a Cunning Fox and he has the appearance of a thief. I could not believe his view, and I did not agree with him. I argued with him and pointed out my view. I asked him to tell me the reasons for his decision. 

Then my father pointed out that the way he looked at him was not a genuine one. Furthermore, my father said that he does not have confidence in his talks. Those two were the main things for my father's decision. But he was alright for me. I did not accept the points told by my father. I did not see any bad appearance in his handsome look. Lol... I think that appearance blinded me. Hah hah hah...

 

When we were going to computer labs, we got to know that he was a lab instructor. He was not a strict person like others and sometimes I did not hear the things he said. He spoke very softly. As the others were strict with students, he was the favorite one of most of us. It was a three-month Computer Course and he stayed during that time period. When some of the instructors left that place for High Paying Jobs, he stayed there for our course time period. It was a pleasure for us. We wanted to see him during our course duration. He was the Motivation for us to go to that class. Lol...

 

After finishing our course, all of us had to leave that place and I planned to go to the next level of the course. But it was not available in that location. My friends had some other plans. So, it was the end of one joyful time. One day, I got to know that our certifications are ready. After a few days, I went with a few friends to collect the certificate. At that time, we did not see that guy and we thought that he left for High Paying Job.

When we were meeting a new friend it was our first question." Hey, where is that guy? Did you see him?". In such a situation, one of our friends said that he was fired from the job. He had stolen some computers in the lab. It was Shocking News for all of us. I could not believe that incident also. I could not see the faces of some of my friends, and those were not good to see even after hearing about that bad news. However, it was the truth.

Appearance & Reality! At least I did not see any bad. On the very first day, my father could observe good signs. But I could not find out any clue though I had these observations in my mind. I don't know why? This time I think the nice appearance and some Soft Skills misled me. That appearance could cover his bad qualities. Luckily, he had a gentleman look with a handsome body. I think it was the case for all of us. Even my friends also did not tell any bad about him. All of us were in the same boat. Lol...

Decision Making Process! Therefore, I believe nobody can come to a decision by looking at the outer appearance. Sometimes you may think that he/she should be a nice person if they have a nice appearance. Sometimes you may think that he/she should be a bad person if they don't have an attractive appearance. Sometimes the decision you took by looking at the appearance will be correct too. But definitely, you should think about the behavior. Basically, you should think about the functionality behind that physical body. There are nice cars that have not worked. As well as there will be moderate look cars that have fast speed. Nothing can be judged by appearance.

Fear Of Change! The other thing is everything is getting changed. The person who measured by others as "good", will not be a good person anymore after a few years. The person who measured by others as "bad", will not be a bad person anymore after a few years. Sometimes maybe within the next few seconds. Therefore, we cannot depend on our predefined decisions or current decisions. Everything will be changed with time.

Blindness! So, once you decided a person as a good fellow, don't depend on that thought forever. It does not let you see his/her bad side and you will act as blind when you are dealing with them. Finally, they will end up their chapters in your life by giving surprises.

Become A Better Person! As well as once you decided a person as a bad fellow, don't depend on that thought forever. He/She has enough facts and reasons to be a good person in this universe. If you cannot see in that way, they do not have a chance to be a better person. My final thought is you should be awake at every moment. Every moment gets changed and you or I cannot measure the speed of the changes. It happens in every moment.

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42.0 Be Smart To Manage Your Thoughts.

As I told you some horror movies not horror movies for us, especially when all of us cousins watched it. Actually, it was enough to have one cousin and not required the participation of all. Most of the times my father's elder brother's daughter was my movie partner. Her husband also joined us when there was a movie that was in the preferred category of three of us.
 

So, if he did not like we two went to the movie theatre. One day we went to watch 'Dracula movie. It was one of the very first versions, I guess. Somehow, it showed in the movie theaters in Sri Lanka. We two idiots also wanted to watch that movie for an unknown reason. Lol... We watched the 7.30 p.m. movie after leaving the office. However, the movie hall was not crowded and, there were many free seats.

As one of my friends said, it was not a scary one except only one thing. Though it was the only scary thing I could not forget it for a long time. As you know 'Dracula was the reason for the death of many young girls. But their deaths did not bring sorrow or fear for us. Some deaths and rebirths made us laugh. Lol... However, that scene was a terrific one. 

In that scene when one girl was standing in front of the mirror, 'Dracula appeared suddenly and hugged her crazily. That sudden appearance of 'Dracula made me crazy and it increased my heartbeat as well. In some situations, we could imagine the next scene as per our movie experiences. But here this was a totally unexpected scene for me. So, I excited and it scared me a lot.

  

However, it was the only thing that I can remember. I could not remember the entire story of the movie. So, once it's finished, we two came out and took the lift to go down. There were a few boys who came out after watching the movie. 

On the way to the ground floor, we two laughed for some movie scenes. At that time, one boy saw my weird tooth, which adjusted as 'Dracula's one at the corner of the mouth. Though it was not sharp like 'Dracula's tooth, it highlighted when I was laughing. Not smiling. Lol... So, at that time, he yelled to his friends and said that 'Hey, just now I saw the real 'Dracula's tooth. See, this is the scariest one. It embarrassed me a lot and at that time, my sister also acted as one of their companions. Lol…

In such one night, we went to watch 'Iron Man. On that day, a few of my cousins were there. I could not remember the reason. It was a free movie show and scheduled to start at 9.00 p.m. The organizing committee informed the delay and, asked to stay for an additional hour. Though some of the cousins wanted to go back, the majority wanted to watch the movie. 

Finally, it started at 10.30 p.m. and finished around 12.30 a.m. As it was our cousins' crowd, parents did not follow us. At the time when we were finishing it, all of us were very tired as all of us came after office hours. So, we wanted to go back home quickly. The very few who did not want to watch the movie blamed us by remembering their next work schedules. Therefore, everyone was in different mental statuses. 

When we were going back to the car park, suddenly we saw a couple. They were weird and, both of them wore totally black clothes and, their skin color was very dark. They wore heavy silver jewelry. There was very heavy jewelry in their neck, ear, nose, hand, and legs. They two were like thieves and their behaviors also weird. Their sudden appearance made us laugh and we hardly manage it as they also came with us in the lift. When we went to the car park, we saw their car. It was also a black one. Their appearance brought me to another planet. I felt like that 'Am I on the earth now?. If we had to stay with them for an additional few minutes, definitely that boy would hit all of us. Lol...

However, once I started the journey of being conscious of my own thoughts, the idea I had about movies changed a bit. Actually, I don't know how do you grasp this view. But I would like to explain that view as I think it will help someone. As well as I wanted to say that even though I have not fully aware of my thoughts yet. 

Sometimes I'm daydreaming. Sometimes, I could not manage my thoughts and played the worst scenario. However, I'm trying. I believe that practice will help me on one day to increase the awareness of my own thoughts. You know that when you are looking at someone and observing their behaviors they cannot cheat you. The same thing will be applied to your mind as well. Then it is not dragging you towards the unnecessary thoughts, sorrows, and daydreams. You will be staying in the present moment. You know what does come to your mind, and with that awareness, there won't no space for that thought to build sub thoughts. I think you can imagine this peacefull situation of your mind when you have suffered from overthinking.

As you all know sorrow, fear, anger, and unpleasantness are belonging to sins as those thoughts are not clean things in our minds. So, as we discussed movies here if we take a fight scene as an example, we would like to see the victory of our hero and expect the death of the other one. In such a situation if you can observe your honest thoughts, you can see that how do you expect death or revenge. In that case, our thoughts go towards the anger side. A few years back, that was my status. Sometimes this may be different when compared with you. 

So by unknowingly those thoughts are coming to our mind. We are getting attached to the things and people we saw.  It also contributions to our next egos and at each moment, we are creating our next egos. So, if you think about a movie you watched, it is a collection of all those thoughts. That's why we laugh, cry, and get angry when we were watching a movie. The thing I wanted to tell you here is being aware of your thoughts could make an inner peace. When you know your thoughts, the mind does not let you go towards the anger side and the attraction side.  

However, I know that this is not a clear explanation for you. I could say that I have tried to explain something. If you are a Sri Lankan, you can search 'Abhidharmaya - Ven 'Thiththagalle Anandasiri Thero for more information. Please forgive me if you could not understand. Just forget the last paragraphs and enjoy the rest.