57.0 Stories You Didn't Know About Fake Nice People. How To Handle Every Fake People Challenge With Ease Using These Tips.

I hope the previous post helps you to Identify Fake People up to some extent. As I'm not a genius on this subject, you all can be the contributors to these articles. Then I also can improve my skills and take the correct decisions. Finally, all of our views help somebody to Identify Toxic and Fake People. They will know the way that they need to deal with them. So, this is a service, friends!

Before moving into jobs, I forgot one incident. It happened when I was doing my higher studies. It was the start of my higher studies, and it was a Computer Course arranged for beginners. Just after finishing the Advanced Levels examination, I wanted to join that computer course. So, it was an exciting course, and I did not have a Computer at home even. I went with my mother for the course registration. On the very first day of the course, I went with my father. At that time, there was a young boy to manage the student's stuff. He was a Handsome Boy and had an innocent look.

 

So, when I was coming back home, I said about his innocence look to my father. But he had a different view. He said that he looked like a Cunning Fox and he has the appearance of a thief. I could not believe his view, and I did not agree with him. I argued with him and pointed out my view. I asked him to tell me the reasons for his decision. 

Then my father pointed out that the way he looked at him was not a genuine one. Furthermore, my father said that he does not have confidence in his talks. Those two were the main things for my father's decision. But he was alright for me. I did not accept the points told by my father. I did not see any bad appearance in his handsome look. Lol... I think that appearance blinded me. Hah hah hah...

 

When we were going to computer labs, we got to know that he was a lab instructor. He was not a strict person like others and sometimes I did not hear the things he said. He spoke very softly. As the others were strict with students, he was the favorite one of most of us. It was a three-month Computer Course and he stayed during that time period. When some of the instructors left that place for High Paying Jobs, he stayed there for our course time period. It was a pleasure for us. We wanted to see him during our course duration. He was the Motivation for us to go to that class. Lol...

 

After finishing our course, all of us had to leave that place and I planned to go to the next level of the course. But it was not available in that location. My friends had some other plans. So, it was the end of one joyful time. One day, I got to know that our certifications are ready. After a few days, I went with a few friends to collect the certificate. At that time, we did not see that guy and we thought that he left for High Paying Job.

When we were meeting a new friend it was our first question." Hey, where is that guy? Did you see him?". In such a situation, one of our friends said that he was fired from the job. He had stolen some computers in the lab. It was Shocking News for all of us. I could not believe that incident also. I could not see the faces of some of my friends, and those were not good to see even after hearing about that bad news. However, it was the truth.

Appearance & Reality! At least I did not see any bad. On the very first day, my father could observe good signs. But I could not find out any clue though I had these observations in my mind. I don't know why? This time I think the nice appearance and some Soft Skills misled me. That appearance could cover his bad qualities. Luckily, he had a gentleman look with a handsome body. I think it was the case for all of us. Even my friends also did not tell any bad about him. All of us were in the same boat. Lol...

Decision Making Process! Therefore, I believe nobody can come to a decision by looking at the outer appearance. Sometimes you may think that he/she should be a nice person if they have a nice appearance. Sometimes you may think that he/she should be a bad person if they don't have an attractive appearance. Sometimes the decision you took by looking at the appearance will be correct too. But definitely, you should think about the behavior. Basically, you should think about the functionality behind that physical body. There are nice cars that have not worked. As well as there will be moderate look cars that have fast speed. Nothing can be judged by appearance.

Fear Of Change! The other thing is everything is getting changed. The person who measured by others as "good", will not be a good person anymore after a few years. The person who measured by others as "bad", will not be a bad person anymore after a few years. Sometimes maybe within the next few seconds. Therefore, we cannot depend on our predefined decisions or current decisions. Everything will be changed with time.

Blindness! So, once you decided a person as a good fellow, don't depend on that thought forever. It does not let you see his/her bad side and you will act as blind when you are dealing with them. Finally, they will end up their chapters in your life by giving surprises.

Become A Better Person! As well as once you decided a person as a bad fellow, don't depend on that thought forever. He/She has enough facts and reasons to be a good person in this universe. If you cannot see in that way, they do not have a chance to be a better person. My final thought is you should be awake at every moment. Every moment gets changed and you or I cannot measure the speed of the changes. It happens in every moment.

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56.0 Master The Style Of Identifying Toxic People With These 9 Signs.

Sometimes this topic might give you a different impression if you read my other blog posts. But I wanted to share this with you all. I think that this will be a useful thing for most of us. Identify People! What do you think? Are you a genius on this subject? Though I'm going to share my experience and observations with you, I'm also not a genius on this subject. But I believe a few things I observed during my lifetime. I hope it would help you to think about your measurements before coming into decisions. It is the main purpose of this article.

From the very beginning of my life, I would like to observe people. When I'm participating in a function and when traveling by bus, I just thought about the qualities of people by considering a few things. I'm not talking about people I know. I'm talking about the observations I did for the people who I don't know and met before. Because of this behavior, some of my fellows thought that I was in another world, though I have been with them. Lol… What to do? It is one of my hobbies.

I did not give attention to many. I observed about one/two people at one time. So, most of the time my attention paid for very calm people, noisy people, and active people. First, I thought that what kind of reasons would make them act as so. My grandfather always used to remind us that "Empty Pots Are Shaking." It was the key advice he gave when we were children. Therefore, it was a predefined decision in my mind. So, when there was a noisy person, I knew that he/she was an empty pot. That advice helped me to Read People.

Do you believe your first impression of someone? Sometimes it won't work for all. But I believe my first impression. I have many examples and I'm sharing key incidents with you to prove that decision. However, it does not mean that I reject that person after the observation I got via the first impression. But I keep it as his/her background and make the negotiations with them accordingly.  However, I want to emphasize you to not to make decisions according to my views. But giving a try won't harmful to anybody. When you are identifying a new person, there is no inbuilt relationship with each other. So, definitely, you can give a try. 

What is your first impression? What does make you come to that decision? Do you know any other matching characters for your new person? What are the benefits/bad luck you have taken because of them? If you made a mistake(s) in your life because of them, how do you want to deal with this person? If you made a mistake because of your bad, how are you going to deal with this new person without losing him/her? Try to answer these questions by having a small chat with yourself along with that first observation. I believe you can analyze your decision accordingly to identify his/her background.

After that, I match that person with another I knew and tried to compare the qualities he/she has. Therefore, when I was looking at him/her self-there was a guy/gal I knew behind that person. All the time it is not a correct comparison. But I believe matching somebody you know, is a key fact that helps you to Identify People you don't know. However, I'm not asking you to do so. But, if you haven't tried it, it is better to give a try and analyze your decision. Then you can identify the accuracy of your decision.

However, it takes time to identify the accuracy of your decision. It takes time. But this kind of analysis avoids risks. You won't take a risky step in your life until that time, as you have a background-level of decision about him/her. You know the place that you need to keep that person. I believe it is enough in the initial stage.

 

If I am moving to my key incidents, all people were my co-workers. Our workplace is such a challenging place that lets us do work with people we did not know before. So, it is very important to go through that quick check-up before starting your journey with them. So, it was my second job opportunity and at that time she was there when I was joining with them. 

She was in the reception area when I was meeting her. She did not give me a friendly welcome, though I also joined for a similar position. In that workplace, we were multi-tasks workers. We taught students in the lectures, supported them in the computer labs, managed their class fees, etc... We did the lecturing and management both. So, that girl also in the reception area to manage some stuff though he was a lecturer at that institute.

First Impression! Why could not she give a friendly smile even? It was my first inner question. She did not give eye contact as well. I thought that she was talking to someone else. So, within the first few minutes, I thought that "she should have something to hide". However, that thought did not keep for the entire day and she was friendly with me after the lunch hour. 

So, after a couple of weeks, all of us were good friends. That era was a nice time we had in my career. Therefore, I thought that my decision was wrong and I thought that I had a wrong impression about such a lovely friend. As she was there before us, her contributions to management tasks a lot and we involved with those tasks when she was not there.

One day, one of our seniors came and instructed me to manage the stuff she did. As she was not there, I did not have a doubt. Though we were thinking about her, she did not come for the entire week. We could not contact her. After another few days, we got to know that the management fired her from the job. Because she stole money that received from students. It was shocking news for all. Nobody believed that by comparing her appearance and behaviors. But it was the truth, and it was the time that reminded my first impression. 

Did she try to hide something? Yes. She had much to hide and play that role for a long time. I also involved money acceptance when she was not there. But luckily, I kept logs separately without mentioning in the main logbook. It was her advice and once she came, she cumulated all with fraud logs. However, that separate logbook saved me from fraud.

So, that situation matched with my first decision. But the mistake I did here was I did not keep that decision as her background and work accordingly with her. After a couple of days, I gave up that thought. Therefore, I never had a suspicious eye on her. So, it was easy for her to continue her tasks without worrying about us. That is why she was friendly with us. I have much to explain, guys. Wait! I don't want to summarize these incidents. I'll explain in a detail view.

I will help you to remove Toxic, Fake and Difficult People as Smart People. Don't you feel that you are reading a book about Sherlock Holmes? No. Right...? Lol...

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35.0 Hows Food At Your Boarding Place? This Is All About Tea I Had.

We had to drink milk tea with less milk powder and, it was a watery tea. The owner of the boarding place was an aunt and, she used to keep enough tea for all of us in a flask. 

She kept in on the dining table and, she served tea in the mornings and evenings. On some evenings, she was kind to give a snack with tea. So, after starting advance level studies, all of us had evening classes after school. Therefore, we used to have a small thing after school and, had lunch at the boarding place after the classes. Then we had lunch in the evenings and, it was tea time. 

Therefore, we had tea also after lunch. One day our aunty said 'You all don't need evening tea when you have evening classes as you had lunch in the evening right?. But we did not agree with her and, we said that it's not a problem to have a tea even just after lunch. We knew that it did not give an additional supplement due to the quality of the tea and other meals. However, she thought about us as a greedy gang. 

One day she called her daughter and, said that 'these gals are having tea just after lunch. They can have heavy meals anytime'. She said the same thing to one of my boarding mate's mother also and, she embarrassed a lot. 

So, that aunty talked to my friend and, asked not to have tea just after lunch. But my friend did not agree with her and, she said that it's required for all of us. However, we did not care about those talks even though, it embarrassed others. We had our tea as usual. Aunty did not keep tea in the flask for a couple of hours and, she cleaned it as soon as tea time was over. So, sometimes we missed it once we had to spend more time in the evening tuition classes.

Though it was not a good quality tea to enjoy, we expected it in the mornings and evenings. So, one day, one of my boarding mates asked her evening tea from aunty in such a situation. At that time, she said that she could not make tea time to time for each of us separately as per the schedules we had and, she asked her to work according to the rules of the boarding. After that, my friend did not make the same request again. However, she prepared tea for me in such a situation as I did not eat meat or eggs. In those days, that green color flask was one of our little hope and, all of us expected to see it in every morning and evening. Hah hah haa...

Time went tightly at the boarding place with exam pressure. However, the boarding gang was close friends like sisters and, they were a crazy gang. One day we got to know about a series of stars which can be seen in the very early morning and it was a rare scene. So, we decided to watch and, we informed aunty on the previous night. 

She also interested and, on the following day all of us went out with her. It was around four or clocks in the morning and, we went to the main road to watch it clearly. There was a restaurant and, one of the boarding mates liked its young manager. So, she visualized a romantic moment also with him and, she wished he could be there to watch the stars. Lol... So, we talked such nonsense and, observed the sky for a couple of minutes to find out that group of stars. We were lucky to see that rare moment. We thought that our effort was not waste by looking at the amazing stars in the clear sky. Anyway, I do not remember the specialty of those stars. On that day, aunty made tea for all of us once we returned to the boarding place.

As well as she gave usual morning tea before going to school. So, we glad about the additional bonus tea we had in the early morning. Therefore, one day-night we lied to her and, we said that we could see another amazing star series in the sky if we could go out in the morning. So, we got up early in the morning and, went out to watch the stars with aunty. But she did not suspend us though, all of us could see the ordinary stars which can be seen in the early mornings. However, it was not a problem because one day had succeeded out of two days. As we expected, she served tea for all of us once we returned to the boarding place back. It was a pleasure for all of us as we could win our plan.

However, I did not admit it today as an adult though we did it for our fun. I don't know why all of us did not think about it as the wrong thing. At that time our thoughts were different and, we tried to have fun out of every little thing. So, at that time also we discussed that aunty could donate something because of us. That was the idea of our hooligan sisters. According to our mindsets those days, we thought that we helped her to gain merits. Though I did not breach the rules of school and parents, I contributed to some kind of such silly things with the companion of my friends. 

After a very long time, I met aunty in Colombo. She was weak and grew old. Though I stopped and talked to her, she could not remember me. Annually there was a different gang of school girls in her boarding place. Or else she did not care about the crazy things we did. Sometimes our behavior was normal for her. 

So, once I asked for some more details from her, she said that she went to the hospital to check the blood. I felt sad about her and, I asked her not to go out without somebody. Then she looked at the sky and, said that the gods protect her. She had a decent family background and, those days all of her children were in some other countries. None of them stayed in Sri Lanka. She also planned to go abroad and live with her youngest son. 

It was her dream, and she was waiting for her son's message. But I realized that nothing had happened, by looking at her eyes. Once I asked her not to go out without somebody, her eyes filled with tears. After that, the whole day was a gloomy day for me and, my mind filled with her memories and sorrow. Meantime, I remembered the incidents and memories we had in the boarding place, and I worried about aunty. Today society is not kind enough to take care of their parents. If they could not bring them to their countries, at least they could look after them with the support of adult helpers.

As soon as I came back home, I had a habit of drinking milk tea. Therefore, I bothered my mother to get a cup of tea as soon as possible. 

Sometimes she got angry with me when she was working on something else which eager than my need. One day she asked me to tell her before getting down from the bus and, she said that then I could have it as soon as I came home. Though she asked me to make tea for myself, I always loved to drink a cup of tea prepared by my mother.

However, in Sri Lanka, milk tea is not a good beverage because of certain low-quality milk powder. Milk powder is the cause of most of the diseases in our society. However, I think it's our responsibility to aware of these things and, change our food habits.  

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