66.0 A Lovely Gift For IT Guys. Oh Sorry... IT Professionals! The Start Of A Fantastic Career Journey. Lol...

With the completion of my higher studies, I wanted to move to my desired field. Though there were related opportunities, I wanted to start my career as a Software Developer. It was my dream. So, I was waiting for that opportunity by ignoring some other vacancies. Though I completed projects with coding for my studies, the employers were looking for employees with some more experiences.

Though my friends said that it is a tough and stressful job for a girl, I wanted that career path. They pointed out the struggle that their development team is putting on to convince me. But you know. I wanted that path. So, one of our senior colleagues asked me to develop a small project as the credentials to show, and I did it for an inventory control system. It was an addition to the coded projects I did for higher studies. So, it was the beginning I expected, and I was ready to accept my dream path even for any payment.

I could keep the first step in my career path as a Trainee VB.Net Programmer. After an induction program, they assigned us to teams under seniors. I started working on commercial projects, and it was a great feeling for me. However, it was not like the inventory system I developed by myself, and there were many coding rules to adopt. However, I could not continue that job for more than one year, and I moved to another place. It was a small organization, and there were very few employees. We met clients, gathered business requirements, develop the system, and test the system before handing over it to the clients.

So, it was the job of an all-rounder. However, job retention was very less, and most of the employees resigned after a few months. The rest of the team had to get the responsibility of their pending work. When I had to face it, I had to fix the issues that clients have communicated without studying the system’s code even. It was a horrible problem for all of us. Sometimes, it is not possible at all when it comes to fixing something that developed with a mess-up code without best practices.

So, in such a situation, our management asked me to visit the client's place and fix all the problems. She also came with me. When we moved there, there was a group of people to communicate their issues. So, now I'm going to touch someone's pending work to fix the problem. They served tea and snacks. They also sat with me to check the status of the issues. From time to time they asked the status of the issues. Though I wanted to tell them that "shut up... I'm not a machine, and this is not like a product that you can buy from a shop", I kindly requested more time to fix the issues. Meantime, they did not forget to discuss new requirements and root causes for the problems too. “I’m bearing up their burden, men……”. Lol... So, it was uncomfortable like hell, and I could not focus on the trouble.

After facing similar issues, I understood its difficulty and thought to change my career field. One of my colleagues also changed the career track, and it was the end for her too. In that company, there was one colleague, and he used to keep the phone receiver away when someone was communicating their system issues. As it is not a good thing to do, we asked him to listen to them. But he did not like to hear even their voice because of the tension they gave at the client's places. It was such an experience. So, I could say that it was the end of one of my dreams. Lol...

Software Testing! It was my destiny. Who knows? If I knew that, then I would start my career as a Tester without struggling as a developer. As it has been dragging for over 12 years, there are many memories. I could join a workplace I loved the most, and joining with them was my second career dream. Lol... I can remember the way I felt sad when I missed the first opportunity. But, later on, I could fulfill my dream. Therefore, the first day was an enjoyable moment like nothing. I enjoyed it a lot with other newcomers who had the same craziness. Some of them are still working at that company. I think they are their fixed assets. Lol...

We joyfully completed the induction programs also and moved to work. I could say that it was another chapter of my life. The life had stuck with "Testing". But the friends and that culture were some motivation factors. So, the workload was not a problem for a couple of years, and "work till the late night was not a problem at all. Lol...

Though it was an enjoyable time, that schedule was not bearable for all the time.  Some colleagues could have free time after finishing one project. But it was only five days for me for the entire five years. When I was working for European projects, I had to work for their time zones too. When the systems are going live, our heartbeats were started increasing a couple of days before the live day. If there was a major issue that we could not find out after going live, then it was the end of the job. One incident could spoil all the good jobs done. So, nobody wanted to get that black mark for their software modules. So, it was a stressful situation. Some of our colleagues went to religious places before go-live and asked for support because of this situation. Though it made us laugh for days, they did as so because of the afraid they had to face such situations.

Therefore, that job and the modules were attached to our personal lives. I think that's why some of our fellows were taking the support of religious places also. They took the project's issues as their problems. Most of our colleagues took their responsibility and they put the maximum effort. I think, that culture created such a bond between employee and job. Most of the colleagues did not check the time when they were working on their tasks. They wanted to finish it somehow and do the needful. I could say that work exposure could change our normal lifestyle.

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65.0 Jobs! Are You A Successful Employee? All The Best...

Jobs!

• What do you know about jobs?

• What don't you know about jobs?

• Are you a successful employee at your company?

• Are you fed up with your job?

• Do you like your office colleagues?

• Are they jealousy about you?

• Do your colleagues let you go up on your career ladder?

• Can you manage your colleagues without hurting their feelings?

• Did they take your blames personally?

• Are you working in the field you expected?

• Does the salary is enough for you?

• Have you requested more?

• Did you remind your next promotion to them?

• How was the last performance appraisal meeting?

• Can you handle the workload within the deadline?

• Is it a reasonable one?

• Do you need more resources?

• Don't they want to hire anymore?

• Can you manage the workload of two people as a genius?

• Can you resolve any critical matter with minimum supervision?

• Have you checked any more opportunities this week?

• How about your last interview? Can you go through it?

• Are you passing your maximum stress level?

• What will happen on next morning?

Huh... Lol... When I'm starting this topic, these are some questions that came to mind by typing that word J….O….B….S! However, some of the questions that I have mentioned above are no longer available on my plate? Instead of those, there are new things? As I was a 9 - 6 employee, those were some firing questions I had before, and I think that most of you also face these matters if you are stuck in someone's office as such an employee. However, by proving Lord Buddha's Dhamma; "If you love 100 things, then you have 100 pains". Basically, if you love something, then it brings you pain. It is a universal truth, and the job has also belonged to this rule, as we have to love it. It is the income method of us. So, it is a thing that gives us the pain too. 

The time I spent as a job seeker was hectic. It was an interview era. In that era, I wanted to find a job near our home town. As IT job opportunities are limited to Colombo, I could not find my desired job. So, I started my career as an IT lecturer. Though the designation was given as a Lecturer, I got a small payment. 

However, I started it for my career exposure. I had to conduct lectures in the classrooms by helping them in the labs as an instructor too. So, it was not an easy job. I could say that the owners took the energy of young girls by allocating the maximum workload. There were many girls, and all had that tight schedule. However, it was a fun era, and sometimes we had to face for the incidents that we did as students in the past. When I was writing something on the board, some started laughing. When I was looking at them, they hid their laughter hardly. One day a boy came up with a question, and I did not know the answer. 

So, I gave an answer that can support the question. As he did not satisfy the answer, I asked him to remind it in the next week. So, I thought to find out the answer when I'm going to the next class. However, I forgot about it and had to face the same situation in the next class. But that guy followed up and asked again. I can remember how did I embarrass. That gang also wanted to defeat the teacher, and it happened. Still, I can remember the winning smile had on his face when I was embarrassed. Lol... 

When we were studying for the Advance level exam, I also did the same for a person who conducted a group class. On that day, we gave a difficult Math question to him, and he could not resolve it soon. When he was taking the time, I can remember how did he get sweat when we were happily watching that moment. However, he could do it by taking the time, even though I could not manage this situation at all. So, I think this incident was a return for me. It is a Karmically return. Lol… 

However, that era was a nice time as I did not stick to a computer only. I could involve different types of people. My colleagues and students had different personalities. So, it was a new experience for me. It was not like involving with a bunch of friends. It was a different thing. One day our management informed us that some seniors who were working in the government sector want to do the computer course. They said that they wanted some sessions in the lab. Not the theory sessions. 

So, they allocated me and another colleague for this job. So, we arranged special materials according to their requirements. When they came, again, they reminded their requirement. Some of them asked about our qualifications. Some felt shy to learn from us, as we look like their children. So, they pointed out many reasons for the requirement of that computer course.

As usual, we introduced the contents of the course. When we were doing it some of them did not look at us even, and they did not care about the things we said. So, it was an uncomfortable situation for us too. Because of their behavior, we could not teach the things and ask questions to verify their understanding as we did for others. So, we assumed that they got the point. He he he.... 

Therefore, the sessions we conducted at the lab were horrible. Some of them could not manage the computer mouse even, though they gave big talks before. So, it made them embarrassed like nothing. However, some caught up the things well and went forward. That gang did not like to listen to their colleagues also. They thought that it was not good for their image. However, they came for a few weeks and stopped suddenly. It was a great relief for us too.  Lol...

So, guys, this is one page of my career, and there are many to tell. I think I can write a few posts regarding this topic. Wait... I will come up with some remarkable memories. You can enjoy it and learn!

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64.0 We Are Dealing With Feelings Of All…It Is Not A Business Negotiation

When getting back to the second part of this topic, I was confused, and don't know where to start. As you know, this is a horrible topic. Lol... However, I would like to reveal all the crazy stuff with you. You also can share your thoughts, feedback, experiences, or anything if you enjoyed the post. So, as we discussed in the first part, the first meetings that arranged at the home were uncomfortable events. But there was no excuse. It was a mandatory thing to arrange those meetings at home and had to go in front of them by wearing another uncomfortable stuff.

As this mission was launched at our home and my uncle's home, they visited me according to the nearest location they lived. I can remember that some of them were discouraged from visiting for many girls in various places in our country. I think they could arrange trips on the same journey. At least they could have some snaps if that did not work. Lol... So, some parents wanted to start the second step "getting to know each other" before arranging this visit ritual. If it worked only, they planned to visit the girl. That was their plan. 

However, it was not the decision of all. But gradually our parents adhered to some flexible arrangements. I think it was enough for them as the arrangements are done at the home required some sort of preparation. So, in such a situation the meetings arranged at places like Pizza hut, Macdonalds, etc.. Most of the time one of my cousin sisters joined with me to meet them. These meetings did not have much pressure. They did not come with family members and all the relatives. It was a great relief. As my cousin sister was there, we could start our conversation in a friendly and informal way. However, it was an uncomfortable situation as both the parties are strangers to each other. I can remember one guy was sweating and he could not manage the conversation. So, when I felt that they were in an uncomfortable situation, I used to think about my appearance, behavior, clothes, hair, and all at that moment. Lol... So, it was an additional thinking process.

Sometimes, all of my cousins joined me when one of them knew the boy. In such cases, all of us went out for lunch or dinner with that guy. They did not forget to appreciate me though it made me embarrassed. Still, I can remember the way they looked at me when I was behaving in an inappropriate way that could reduce his interest. Lol... Some cases did not work at all. It was just a meeting. But some cases could keep the second step after going through the first meet up well.

I think most of the cases went wrong due to miscommunication. Some guys did not have enough free time to talk, and sometimes it happened from my end. It was not possible to have a long chat during office hours, and those days office hours also ended up in the night. Sometimes, I could not check whether they had their breakfast, lunch, and dinner before having my meal. Sometimes, I forgot and sometimes I felt kind of artificial feeling. I could do it as a tradition or a rule to win them. But it did not come through me as an honest feeling to care about them. 

Sometimes, I forgot to inform the late hour works. They wanted a very attaching lifestyle that cannot be lived in real life. I think sometimes such a lifestyle can be handled before the marriage. But I didn't think that it is possible to keep the same level after the marriage. Then each one would start to see the difference. There was such a marriage proposal, and sometimes I scheduled the messages. I sent a message before sleep, and schedule my "Good morning" message. Lol...

On the other hand, some guys did not want such caring and they wanted their freedom. It was enough to have one call per day and such a caring routine disturbed them. So, it was not possible at all to contact them in the day time for anything. I did not want to follow such guys at all due to my ego. So, none of us won, but the ego did. Lol... However, I appreciate such guys, as they show their real qualities from the beginning.

The main issue I had in these marriage proposals is the nature of artificial feelings. Sometimes, some guys felt love, kindness, caring, and all within a few days, and I was not ready to accept. I did not think that it is possible and still, I believe that it is something that needs to be developed with time, and qualities of each. Some of them pointed out the limited time they had for selecting a partner when I was questioning the reasons for such abnormal occurrences. Some people had a queue of girls and they checked one person for certain days and go to the next one. Some guys did it parallelly. Lol...

Apart from all, some guys did all for the marriage proposals as obedient children of their parents. Though they had a love affair with another girl, they did not reveal it to their parents and did whatever their parents wanted to marriage proposals. They visited girls with their parents. They just did it as a drama by running their real love affair. There was such a couple at one of my previous offices. However, I don't understand why they were wasting time and money for many. But they were like that. I let you think even though various answers came to my mind.

However, I think this partner searching process is a pathetic area of our society. I don't know about this situation in other countries. If you check the marriage proposals published in a newspaper, then you can clearly understand it. You will see how do the young lives are oscillating among the different hopes and expectations that they think as requirements for their marriage lives.

I could not forget some incidents of this topic. I would like to prominent my parent's hopes and sacrifices. One day my father prepared dinner for me when I was coming back home from Colombo. He did that for me, as my mother was not well. On that day he prepared many, including noodle to celebrate the confirmation of one marriage proposal. It is just a confirmation made by both sides, and my father was happy about that boy's handsome look. So, he prepared that meal for me from his best abilities. When it is on the table, I got a little from that noodle bowl. I thought it was a jack curry. It has so steamed and could not identify it. Lol...

On another day, he prepared some cutlets. He had to do all because of my mother's situation. At that time, that guy and his parents visited my uncle's home. That location was near to them. So, I asked my father to stay at home as he had to travel. But he came, and he brought the cutlets he prepared for their tea time. Those were dark black and it gave a bitter taste. I felt so sad about my father. 

He made all those sacrifices because of us. So, it is not only my father. If you think a bit you will identify some points that you can highlight. The marriage proposal thing is not a business to exchange two humans. In this matter, we all are dealing with the feelings of each other including parents. 

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63.0 The Reasons... Why You Are Still An Amateur At Marriage Proposals?

As you know, I have a pending list of topics to write as Blog posts. This topic is one of them. When I was preparing that list, this was at the top as I have many things to share with you all. But when I look at it before starting a new post, I did not want to take it. However, today I'm taking that topic and I would like to see your responses. Lol... If you are seeking an arranged marriage, then you would also have such memories. Sometimes I won't be able to finish this by one article. Will see...

The Main Reason for that delay was I felt a bit shy to reveal the incidents of this topic though most of them are fun. But I think that such a reveal can help someone who is working on this matter. Apart from that, I think such a reveal will help me to reduce the view of "I". Though we think that there is a person in our body, that is not the truth. We should be able to think all about these as doctrines that cannot be controlled as per our wish. I know that you will have different views regarding my point. 

However, I'm sharing this according to the Dhamma of Lord Buddha. It is not my invention. It is a Universal Truth. If you think that you have an ego, then think whether you can control your inhale and exhale as per your wish, if you are the owner of this body. So, this truth exists with us and we should perceive it within us via the practice. There should be such a thinking pattern. If you can reveal the mistakes, and silly things you did, then it will help you to reduce the view of "I”. Therefore, I think this reveal helps me to be in that correct track. Think… You will agree with me. However, you can ignore this paragraph and enjoy the rest if you do not agree with that point.

As I did not find a suitable Partner by myself, my parents decided to fulfill their responsibility. Before that, they asked whether I have someone or not. Those days, they used to check my diary. So, once they were asking about this many times, I wrote my diary accordingly to prove my response. Lol... So, they started that mission. It’s a mission. Lol... Lol... You can read This Post as a background on this topic.

 

The Secret Mission! However, they launched their mission secretly. I don't know why? Lol... Though they published a marriage proposal advertisement in the newspaper, they did not tell it to me. Later on, I got to know about that. I saw a piece of paper hidden under the mattress of my mother's bed. I saw that it was about the details of girls/women who were seeking for partners. So, when I was going through a few Advertisements, I saw my one. Lol... Though I cannot remember the content now, I remembered that it made me laugh. So, it was the very first step of their mission. I think they had many hopes. Hmm...

That Dream... Lol! So, it was the beginning of a damn era that critically highlighted the importance of a Marriage. Our friends and some of my cousins also started their new journeys. Therefore, it was a kind of Romantic era where we had many weddings while we were seeking for our opportunity. So, wedding times also benefited to some of my friends. But you know. At that time, I thought that it was not my time. Still, I'm thinking as so. Lol... However, it was kind of a dreamy hope that we had before seeing the marriage lives of friends, and siblings. Lol...

So, though there were many opportunities for me to find out a good fellow, my parents had to continue their mission. Therefore, they published marriage proposals in newspapers. They checked suitable proposals in the Newspaper, and so on. Meantime, they gave my details to some matrimonial organizations and people. Therefore, every weekend, I had to go through their selections and give feedback. Among them, we selected one and my parents decided to contact them.

The First Meeting! After the initial discussion by parents, everything arranged to schedule the first meeting at our home. So, there were many preparations. They prepared various foodstuffs, and I also had to prepare a suitable attire for their visit. It was the most annoying thing as I had to wear a saree as per our traditions. So, once they came, my parents welcomed them and had a small discussion. Then it was my time, and they asked me to meet them. It was the most nervous moment I had in my life. I could not Smile even. It took some time to be a normal human. Once all done, they went, and my parents were happy about him. 

But you know it was not my choice. Lol... Therefore, I kindly gave my feedback when my parents were asking for my feedback. As they kept hopes, it was not their expectation. So, they felt sad. I can remember that my father went to sleep after my response, and I got to know that it made him sad. What to do, guys?

After that, they arranged many similar meetings. I also faced them like a tired dummy. Lol... However, as I could not spend my weekends peacefully, and later on, it became a Headache. Sometimes the way they were questioning or the way they have looked at me also were some reasons for the rejections. Apart from my decisions, some guys did not respond once they left. Such situations made me happy as it did not a reason for me to get my parents' blame. I respected their Decision. Lol...  

My Plan! So, after a few months, I wanted to get rid of these proposals’ thing. Therefore, I started a programming course at the weekend. I requested a small break from my parents and I promised to get back to that matter after finishing that course. Lol... It was a big relief for me. If you know the arrangements and all then, you can understand my situation.

Time went fast, and my parents started their Job again once the requested time was over with that course. Meantime, I got a job as well. So, as I stayed in my uncle's home to go to the office, my parents launched their mission on weekdays also at their home too. Therefore, meetings were scheduled at our homes and my uncles' home. So, it was a Horrible Era where I had to manage my nervous feelings in front of strangers. I think it happened to them also as I was a stranger to them. So, most of the time, both did not smile friendly even. Lol... 

Family Visits! Some guys came with their whole family including parents, siblings, friends, aunts, uncles, and kids. So, such visits look like small gatherings. Lol... Once they came, the entire crowd started to ask questions and some silly things made me angry. In such cases, I gave my response without thinking twice. However, those were very uncomfortable situations, though those are fun memories now. I don't know why did they bring their entire family? Lol...

However, some fellows got friendly with my sisters and cousins. They did not talk to me much and spoke with them like long time Friends. Lol... The same situation happened to one of my cousin sisters as well. One guy came to visit her with his parents, and at that time I had to continue the conversation with him as he did not talk with my cousin's sister well. Luckily, both of us were IT professional. Therefore, we had some points to discuss in that uncomfortable conversation. 

As a common issue that happens to IT guys, he also had dark circles around his eyes. Those were like the eyes of a drunk person. It looks like he did not have enough sleep, and it was my thought. Appearance and his unfriendly behavior were the main reasons for my sisters' rejection. Lol… If both parties could understand that all are strangers to each other, then I think things would change.

However, we could share good impressions with each other in a few meetings, and such situations put the second step. Getting to know each other! Lol...

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62.0 Best Bath Tips You Will Read This Year. How To Enjoy Your Bath Time?

Hobbies! Today, I wanted to bring an article about one of my hobbies. I hope that you also have similar experiences that you can compare with my story. Please don't forget to share it with us if you have a fun bath than us. Sometimes this will be your hobby too. I know most of the people enjoy their bath time if they do not have a hurry for another schedule. If we can go out to have a bath with a few friends, then it will arrange a great get together.

In one of my posts, I wrote how did I bath when I was a kid. If you wish to read more about it, you can go through this article. Childhood is a mesmerizing memory, and that Bath Time was a valuable addition to that memory. As we did not have a tight schedule, we had enough time to enjoy our bath when I was a kid. I think my parents also had a good time and it was like a leisure time them too. There was no rush to move to another work by finishing the bath as soon as possible. If there were such a thing to hurry, then it was our meal. I can remember that my mother asked me to finish the bath soon to have lunch. However, she made that request after letting me enjoy my bath time for hours. So, it was a reasonable request.

River Bath! It was a river bath, and I was lucky to go there very often. As we moved to another location, I had to change it, and I never went to a river when we were living there. It was a city. So, that time passed with my primary education. Though I had a good bath time on the river, I never complained about the new water level that comes through a small tap line or shower. However, there was a bathtub in that bathroom, and sometimes I sank in that tub for hours when my parents were not at home. Lol... They thought that it was not good for the health of this creature who had a bath in the river for hours. It was like that.

From that era onwards, it was one of the main Water resources that I had to have a bath. After a few years, again, we had to change our location due to the father's job transfer. It was not an urban area, and we lived in a rented house. There were no facilities like the previous place. Water did not supply to the doorstep. So, it took a certain time for us to adapt to it. 

The well was the main water resource for us. We used a separate well to take drinking water, and there were marvelous water resources to have a bath. One well located in a paddy field, and I loved that place. It was a small well located in a green area. It is a nice scenery to imagine today.

Nature! We could take water easily. It required less effort as the water level came to the top. Even a small child could take water and have a bath. It was not a crowded place as well. My father did not come to that place as he used to have a bath at night. So, I went there with my mother and sister. When time allowed, we three went there. It was a memorable place because of a few reasons. One thing is its location. I loved that well which situated in a green area. The other thing is there was clean and cool water because of "Kumbuk" trees exist near the paddy field. The other thing is still, I can remember how did my mother wash my wound once we went to that well. It was a remarkable wound and it is another story. That Wound Story. So, I cannot forget that bath time. Still, I can remember the fresh air that comes through the paddy field when I was bathing cool water.

Once we moved to our own house, we did not want to go outside to have a bath. But we love to go to the river and well to have a bath. However, when I was moving to the school grades that have key Examinations, we cut down the things that we have done leisurely. We worked by looking at the clock. It was in the face. So, this bath time also such a key thing that I had to cut down, and gradually the bath gets restricted to the bathroom. Later on, I felt lazy to go to the river or the well if there was no friend or cousin.  

Priority! However, still, I could not cut down the time that I wanted to have a bath. Though it is a problem to others, still, I need a portion of the time I used in the river and the well in that paddy field. Though I had a rush to go to the office when I was a 9-5 employee, I gave priority to my bath time. So, when I had some sort of illness, bath time was the key reason that they pointed out. Lol... When I was sharing the bathroom with my cousin's sister, I waked up in the early morning to have a bath. Or else she did not have enough time for her preparation.

A few years back, one of my cousin's sister migrated to another country. She said that they have to use a small-time for a shower. She said that if I went there, then those people will send me back to my country because of the time I required for a shower. Lol... So, I would like you to invite you to my country to have an unlimited bath if you have not visited Sri Lanka yet. You can go to the sea, a river, or the well to enjoy your bath time. If you went through my article, definitely you will remember me too.

Go Green! As well as we should think about our environment as a part of our body. We are a part of this nature. So, if we destroy it, it means that we are destroying ourselves. We should let our children also have a nice time as we had. They also should be nature lovers to protect this earth. So, if you see a water tap that does not close properly, don't think twice to do your part though it is not your home. If you are the one who is leaving the office at the end, then make sure that you switch off the lights, fans, etc... before you leave. I know that it does not add an extra charge for your bill. You don’t need to worry about other's bills. But that should be the thinking pattern. We are a part of this universe. So, we should think globally to Protect our environment. 

Don't forget to enjoy your bath time, guys!

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61.0 Want To Have A More Appealing Facial Expressions? Read This! Mesmerizing Examples Of Facial Expressions.

What do you think about your Facial Expressions? Can you hide it when you want to do so? Or do you express your real expressions as it is though it is not pleasant to others? You can decide at the end of this topic. Till then, I will share some of my experiences. Sometimes, you may think that this is not an important thing to discuss. But I wanted to bring this to you. I think this is an important thing to consider according to my view.

Can you read the Facial Expressions of your family members at least? Do you ignore the facial expression of your office colleague once you feel that it brings you some disadvantages? Do you want some more facts to verify your observation to approve the things that you identified via Facial Expressions? Or do you accept someone's facial expressions as it is without any other facts? Sometimes, you may have your answers. Some of you may think about your answers. Read my stuff, and it will help you to think broadly and come to a decision.

If I tell you about myself, some of my friends have told me that they cannot read my Facial Expressions. Once they told me that, I felt so happy. Lol...  Then I thought that I can hide the facial expressions that I do not want to show it to others. One day when I was working at a previous workplace, I was so tired, and on that day, I worked till around 9 p.m. So, it was enough for the day. I got this response from one of my friends there when I could not laugh for a joke shared by one of our colleagues. Though the others laughed a lot, I could not laugh with Expressions. So, it was a laugh without an expression. Then it was another joke for them. It was their next topic. Lol... I think tiredness was the main problem.

I forgot to share this thing with you before moving to that incident. In the school era, as you know, we had a joyful time. We lived with Laughter.  We could not hide it for any serious reason. Even the punishment time gave joy to us if we did not get a slap from a teacher or principal. When it comes to slap, it was a different story. In that era, I could say that we laughed at everything. We were like mad creatures. So, when we were trying to identify a solution to this problem, one of my friends asked to think about a sad incident to avoid laughter. It was a good solution, and it worked up to some extent.

However, there were some situations where we could not manage it. In such a case, one of our teachers blamed me for something saying "I can see the laughter in your eyes though you did not laugh". She was correct. At that time, I was trying to avoid my laughter when she was blaming me. But she was clever to see it via my eyes. Once she told that, I laughed as usual, and it increased her anger. Lol...

Those days she did not like me and there was a valid reason for her to do so. One day I called her "Aunt" instead of "Madam". Though I did not do it intentionally, it made me laugh at the end, and I said "Sorry" by keeping that smile. So, I think it would be like a slap to her. After that, I said sorry for a few times in serious mode. But it did not work well.  I think she kept the first facial expressions on her mind. So, she had many reasons for me to blame, and I think she was the one who could read my Facial Expressions well on those days. Lol...

 

So, when it comes to others, I have observed the Facial Expressions of people. It is fun to see the difference between their words and expressions. But some situations made me sad. Sometimes it is a pain to identify the real face. But it depends on few facts like friendship, relationship, etc.. 

You may feel sad once you identify the person as a bad one, who you believed. You may feel happy once you identify the person as a bad one, who you suspected. So, it depends. I hope you can understand what I'm telling you. Think about your thoughts when you see the sorrow on the face of someone who loves you after hearing good news about you.

However, I have never communicated it to them, and I did it for my information only. I did not share my observations with others, except very few incidents. Most of the time, I think we ignore this observation if we feel that we may have disadvantages after letting them know about that. I can remember how did some of our seniors ask us to stay till late for work, though they can see the pain and tiredness from our faces. I think that the above reason was the thing for them to act so. I know. It is true up to some extent. If somebody can act well, then he/she will show you Fake Expressions to get your sympathy. So, it needs to decide very carefully.

When thinking about such incidents happened in the workplace, there are many to reveal. But I do think that nobody can take benefits from them. However, I felt happy about this subject and the job as we can show our facial expressions as it is, though it is pleasant or not. Certain jobs do not allow the employees to show their actual status as it is. So, we are lucky guys. Most of the people cannot see our face even. They are also lucky, I think. Lol...

So, this incident happened to a waiter in a five-star hotel. It was a Sunday, and at that time there were fewer employees. So, she had to carry on the work on behalf of other colleagues as well. I could see the anger and tiredness on her face. She got a huge effort to hide it from customers. The other person also a waiter and he was also a team member. When I was working on my observation job, he could identify it. When he was pouring tea into my cup, his Face talks many sorrows. But he turned it back to a Smile and wished me a good day once he noticed my observation. I think that they are some people who work for us by giving a pleasant service by forgetting their personal worries. But you cannot have the same experience at every place, though you are a customer. 

If you would like to read more on this you can go through this article as well. Have You Ever Observed The Meaning of Someones' Smile?