As you know, I have a pending list of topics to write as Blog posts. This topic is one of them. When I was preparing that list, this was at the top as I have many things to share with you all. But when I look at it before starting a new post, I did not want to take it. However, today I'm taking that topic and I would like to see your responses. Lol... If you are seeking an arranged marriage, then you would also have such memories. Sometimes I won't be able to finish this by one article. Will see...
The Main Reason for that delay was I felt a bit shy to reveal the incidents of this topic though most of them are fun. But I think that such a reveal can help someone who is working on this matter. Apart from that, I think such a reveal will help me to reduce the view of "I". Though we think that there is a person in our body, that is not the truth. We should be able to think all about these as doctrines that cannot be controlled as per our wish. I know that you will have different views regarding my point.
However, I'm sharing this according to the Dhamma of Lord Buddha. It is not my invention. It is a Universal Truth. If you think that you have an ego, then think whether you can control your inhale and exhale as per your wish, if you are the owner of this body. So, this truth exists with us and we should perceive it within us via the practice. There should be such a thinking pattern. If you can reveal the mistakes, and silly things you did, then it will help you to reduce the view of "I”. Therefore, I think this reveal helps me to be in that correct track. Think… You will agree with me. However, you can ignore this paragraph and enjoy the rest if you do not agree with that point.
As I did not find a suitable Partner by myself, my parents decided to fulfill their responsibility. Before that, they asked whether I have someone or not. Those days, they used to check my diary. So, once they were asking about this many times, I wrote my diary accordingly to prove my response. Lol... So, they started that mission. It’s a mission. Lol... Lol... You can read This Post as a background on this topic.
The Secret Mission! However, they launched their mission secretly. I don't know why? Lol... Though they published a marriage proposal advertisement in the newspaper, they did not tell it to me. Later on, I got to know about that. I saw a piece of paper hidden under the mattress of my mother's bed. I saw that it was about the details of girls/women who were seeking for partners. So, when I was going through a few Advertisements, I saw my one. Lol... Though I cannot remember the content now, I remembered that it made me laugh. So, it was the very first step of their mission. I think they had many hopes. Hmm...
That Dream... Lol! So, it was the beginning of a damn era that critically highlighted the importance of a Marriage. Our friends and some of my cousins also started their new journeys. Therefore, it was a kind of Romantic era where we had many weddings while we were seeking for our opportunity. So, wedding times also benefited to some of my friends. But you know. At that time, I thought that it was not my time. Still, I'm thinking as so. Lol... However, it was kind of a dreamy hope that we had before seeing the marriage lives of friends, and siblings. Lol...
So, though there were many opportunities for me to find out a good fellow, my parents had to continue their mission. Therefore, they published marriage proposals in newspapers. They checked suitable proposals in the Newspaper, and so on. Meantime, they gave my details to some matrimonial organizations and people. Therefore, every weekend, I had to go through their selections and give feedback. Among them, we selected one and my parents decided to contact them.
The First Meeting! After the initial discussion by parents, everything arranged to schedule the first meeting at our home. So, there were many preparations. They prepared various foodstuffs, and I also had to prepare a suitable attire for their visit. It was the most annoying thing as I had to wear a saree as per our traditions. So, once they came, my parents welcomed them and had a small discussion. Then it was my time, and they asked me to meet them. It was the most nervous moment I had in my life. I could not Smile even. It took some time to be a normal human. Once all done, they went, and my parents were happy about him.
But you know it was not my choice. Lol... Therefore, I kindly gave my feedback when my parents were asking for my feedback. As they kept hopes, it was not their expectation. So, they felt sad. I can remember that my father went to sleep after my response, and I got to know that it made him sad. What to do, guys?
After that, they arranged many similar meetings. I also faced them like a tired dummy. Lol... However, as I could not spend my weekends peacefully, and later on, it became a Headache. Sometimes the way they were questioning or the way they have looked at me also were some reasons for the rejections. Apart from my decisions, some guys did not respond once they left. Such situations made me happy as it did not a reason for me to get my parents' blame. I respected their Decision. Lol...
My Plan! So, after a few months, I wanted to get rid of these proposals’ thing. Therefore, I started a programming course at the weekend. I requested a small break from my parents and I promised to get back to that matter after finishing that course. Lol... It was a big relief for me. If you know the arrangements and all then, you can understand my situation.
Time went fast, and my parents started their Job again once the requested time was over with that course. Meantime, I got a job as well. So, as I stayed in my uncle's home to go to the office, my parents launched their mission on weekdays also at their home too. Therefore, meetings were scheduled at our homes and my uncles' home. So, it was a Horrible Era where I had to manage my nervous feelings in front of strangers. I think it happened to them also as I was a stranger to them. So, most of the time, both did not smile friendly even. Lol...
Family Visits! Some guys came with their whole family including parents, siblings, friends, aunts, uncles, and kids. So, such visits look like small gatherings. Lol... Once they came, the entire crowd started to ask questions and some silly things made me angry. In such cases, I gave my response without thinking twice. However, those were very uncomfortable situations, though those are fun memories now. I don't know why did they bring their entire family? Lol...
However, some fellows got friendly with my sisters and cousins. They did not talk to me much and spoke with them like long time Friends. Lol... The same situation happened to one of my cousin sisters as well. One guy came to visit her with his parents, and at that time I had to continue the conversation with him as he did not talk with my cousin's sister well. Luckily, both of us were IT professional. Therefore, we had some points to discuss in that uncomfortable conversation.
As a common issue that happens to IT guys, he also had dark circles around his eyes. Those were like the eyes of a drunk person. It looks like he did not have enough sleep, and it was my thought. Appearance and his unfriendly behavior were the main reasons for my sisters' rejection. Lol… If both parties could understand that all are strangers to each other, then I think things would change.
However, we could share good impressions with each other in a few meetings, and such situations put the second step. Getting to know each other! Lol...
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