63.0 The Reasons... Why You Are Still An Amateur At Marriage Proposals?

As you know, I have a pending list of topics to write as Blog posts. This topic is one of them. When I was preparing that list, this was at the top as I have many things to share with you all. But when I look at it before starting a new post, I did not want to take it. However, today I'm taking that topic and I would like to see your responses. Lol... If you are seeking an arranged marriage, then you would also have such memories. Sometimes I won't be able to finish this by one article. Will see...

The Main Reason for that delay was I felt a bit shy to reveal the incidents of this topic though most of them are fun. But I think that such a reveal can help someone who is working on this matter. Apart from that, I think such a reveal will help me to reduce the view of "I". Though we think that there is a person in our body, that is not the truth. We should be able to think all about these as doctrines that cannot be controlled as per our wish. I know that you will have different views regarding my point. 

However, I'm sharing this according to the Dhamma of Lord Buddha. It is not my invention. It is a Universal Truth. If you think that you have an ego, then think whether you can control your inhale and exhale as per your wish, if you are the owner of this body. So, this truth exists with us and we should perceive it within us via the practice. There should be such a thinking pattern. If you can reveal the mistakes, and silly things you did, then it will help you to reduce the view of "I”. Therefore, I think this reveal helps me to be in that correct track. Think… You will agree with me. However, you can ignore this paragraph and enjoy the rest if you do not agree with that point.

As I did not find a suitable Partner by myself, my parents decided to fulfill their responsibility. Before that, they asked whether I have someone or not. Those days, they used to check my diary. So, once they were asking about this many times, I wrote my diary accordingly to prove my response. Lol... So, they started that mission. It’s a mission. Lol... Lol... You can read This Post as a background on this topic.

 

The Secret Mission! However, they launched their mission secretly. I don't know why? Lol... Though they published a marriage proposal advertisement in the newspaper, they did not tell it to me. Later on, I got to know about that. I saw a piece of paper hidden under the mattress of my mother's bed. I saw that it was about the details of girls/women who were seeking for partners. So, when I was going through a few Advertisements, I saw my one. Lol... Though I cannot remember the content now, I remembered that it made me laugh. So, it was the very first step of their mission. I think they had many hopes. Hmm...

That Dream... Lol! So, it was the beginning of a damn era that critically highlighted the importance of a Marriage. Our friends and some of my cousins also started their new journeys. Therefore, it was a kind of Romantic era where we had many weddings while we were seeking for our opportunity. So, wedding times also benefited to some of my friends. But you know. At that time, I thought that it was not my time. Still, I'm thinking as so. Lol... However, it was kind of a dreamy hope that we had before seeing the marriage lives of friends, and siblings. Lol...

So, though there were many opportunities for me to find out a good fellow, my parents had to continue their mission. Therefore, they published marriage proposals in newspapers. They checked suitable proposals in the Newspaper, and so on. Meantime, they gave my details to some matrimonial organizations and people. Therefore, every weekend, I had to go through their selections and give feedback. Among them, we selected one and my parents decided to contact them.

The First Meeting! After the initial discussion by parents, everything arranged to schedule the first meeting at our home. So, there were many preparations. They prepared various foodstuffs, and I also had to prepare a suitable attire for their visit. It was the most annoying thing as I had to wear a saree as per our traditions. So, once they came, my parents welcomed them and had a small discussion. Then it was my time, and they asked me to meet them. It was the most nervous moment I had in my life. I could not Smile even. It took some time to be a normal human. Once all done, they went, and my parents were happy about him. 

But you know it was not my choice. Lol... Therefore, I kindly gave my feedback when my parents were asking for my feedback. As they kept hopes, it was not their expectation. So, they felt sad. I can remember that my father went to sleep after my response, and I got to know that it made him sad. What to do, guys?

After that, they arranged many similar meetings. I also faced them like a tired dummy. Lol... However, as I could not spend my weekends peacefully, and later on, it became a Headache. Sometimes the way they were questioning or the way they have looked at me also were some reasons for the rejections. Apart from my decisions, some guys did not respond once they left. Such situations made me happy as it did not a reason for me to get my parents' blame. I respected their Decision. Lol...  

My Plan! So, after a few months, I wanted to get rid of these proposals’ thing. Therefore, I started a programming course at the weekend. I requested a small break from my parents and I promised to get back to that matter after finishing that course. Lol... It was a big relief for me. If you know the arrangements and all then, you can understand my situation.

Time went fast, and my parents started their Job again once the requested time was over with that course. Meantime, I got a job as well. So, as I stayed in my uncle's home to go to the office, my parents launched their mission on weekdays also at their home too. Therefore, meetings were scheduled at our homes and my uncles' home. So, it was a Horrible Era where I had to manage my nervous feelings in front of strangers. I think it happened to them also as I was a stranger to them. So, most of the time, both did not smile friendly even. Lol... 

Family Visits! Some guys came with their whole family including parents, siblings, friends, aunts, uncles, and kids. So, such visits look like small gatherings. Lol... Once they came, the entire crowd started to ask questions and some silly things made me angry. In such cases, I gave my response without thinking twice. However, those were very uncomfortable situations, though those are fun memories now. I don't know why did they bring their entire family? Lol...

However, some fellows got friendly with my sisters and cousins. They did not talk to me much and spoke with them like long time Friends. Lol... The same situation happened to one of my cousin sisters as well. One guy came to visit her with his parents, and at that time I had to continue the conversation with him as he did not talk with my cousin's sister well. Luckily, both of us were IT professional. Therefore, we had some points to discuss in that uncomfortable conversation. 

As a common issue that happens to IT guys, he also had dark circles around his eyes. Those were like the eyes of a drunk person. It looks like he did not have enough sleep, and it was my thought. Appearance and his unfriendly behavior were the main reasons for my sisters' rejection. Lol… If both parties could understand that all are strangers to each other, then I think things would change.

However, we could share good impressions with each other in a few meetings, and such situations put the second step. Getting to know each other! Lol...

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46.0 Top 10 Lessons About Evening Walks & Observations. Learn Before You Hit 40.

Evening Walks! As I have mentioned a few incidents I faced during my evening walk, I thought to elaborate it further. Those days I used to walk a few days to keep good health. This was scheduled after office hours. Normally, I used a bus or taxi to come back from the office.

So, when I wanted to walk, I came back by bus as I could get down from the bus and walk a few miles. Though I could do the same when using a taxi also, it did not work as it was a comfortable journey.

As you know, actually it was good practice for both physical and mental health. It could keep the body fit while releases mental stress. As well as it allows us to have a not interrupted sleep. However, I did not face any sleeping issues. But the following day was filled with energy. If you encounter any sleeping issues, here I'm suggesting you have a walk or some kind of exercise. After the office work, evening walk could give great relief. Sometimes, the office problems and 'to-do list remembered during that time also. Lol…

My Evening Routine! However, no one joined for my evening walk, exercise, though most of them are doing it with their friends or spouse. A few years back, one of my cousins also lived near my uncle's place. Those days we two went for a walk. We started around 7 p.m. and continued till 8.30 p.m. 

As it was a separate place for fitness lovers, there were many people. Some of them came with their friends while others came with their families. Some people tried to find out love affairs. Among them, most of them were seeking additional partners for their jogging time. We got to know that when my cousin got the attention of such people. However, no one forced relationships, and they just tried. If anyone would like to do so, then it would be an enjoyable jogging time for both as per their view. We used to observe some people who had such an interest. That was our sub hobby. Lol...

When moving back to my own evening walk, I did it most of the weekdays after office hours. However, I could not make it as at a stretch exercise as I wanted to visit a few shops. As you know, I went to have fruit juice and buy movie DVDs. Apart from them the other tasks I had to do, such as buying clothes, shoes, food, and paying bills also done during this time. So, it took about one hour, though it was a fifteen minutes’ walk. Most of the day I visited at least one shop during this journey and very randomly I could finish it within fifteen to twenty minutes.

There was a cemetery in the main route I used. Most of the times I didn't use that side of the road. Though it did not make scary feelings, I did not use that side. As it was an old and large cemetery, there were many stories behind that cemetery. Fear Of Death? No. Right?

There were paper articles and TV programs also. Most of them said that those publishers used the cemetery to earn money via horror stories. However, it filled up with many myths, stories, and secrets. One group interviewed the security guards of the cemetery, and their views and experiences published as a series. One security guard said that they did not feel the taste of foods when they were having meals at the cemetery. Some of them explained their friend's experience. Though I did not know the truth of those stories, I did not want to take a risk. Lol... So, I always followed up with the best practices. My uncle also did not forget to ask the side of the road I used once he got to know about my evening practice.

The other main thing was the people I met during my evening walk time. Actually, it was an additional I experienced. I met different people. Some of them were police officers who had traffic duties on that route. Police On Duty! Some of them were boys who passed me on most of the day. 

So, these two groups offered a friendly smile, and I think that Meetup was a nice thing for both of us. Apart from them, there were a few beggars on that route. One lady was sitting in front of a church, and she used to get the contributions from pedestrians like us. Some days I used to buy some food separately for her without giving money. However, she gave the same smile and thanked us irrespective of the things we gave.

Story Of Old Couple! Apart from these three types, there was an old couple. They were sitting on two chairs in the front side of their house. Those two chairs kept near the main door, and they were looking at the road, vehicles, and people. 

Earlier I thought that they were waiting for their children who went to work. But later on, I could see them any evening or night when I was passing them. As well as I have never seen any other soul except these two. As I saw the same thing over a year, I thought that only that couple lived in that old house. Everything surrounded by them was old like them. Though I tried to smile with them, they did not look at me any day. So, I gave up that idea after looking at them most of the day.

Lifestyle! Sometimes, one chair was empty and the only lady or gent was in the other chair. That empty chair brought many and different feelings to my mind. Most of the times I felt sorry for them. I thought that though we spent luxury/good (or whatever lifestyle) lives at a young age with children and all, finally everyone has to go through a certain time period like this. We may just look outside by doing nothing. We won't have the energy to work while our mind is working on many things. 

So, I think everybody of us should think about that seat. We won't be able to work. But how do you manage your inner feelings and thoughts? If you did not have a good history, then that seat would be a place to let you suffer. The more time you spend on that seat will let you more and more suffering. But if you have good things to rewind, then it would be another joyful time. Unfortunately, I could not see the happiness on their faces. They were worried about someone or something. At least they did not talk to each other. I could say that their appearance and one empty chair taught many lessons and my evening walk was my helper to observe them. 

Apart from that, I would like to ask two questions. How do you feel if that empty chair belongs to your parents who could not get your affection? What will be reminding you most if you are the owner of the other chair?

How To Manage Feelings Of Failures?

40.0 Sleepy Hours, Boys, Love & Fun

We had our physics class on Sundays. When it comes to Sunday, my energy was over for the entire week. So, most of the time, it was very difficult to travel there even. Sometimes I have fallen sleep in the class because of this reason. It happened unintentionally and, I could not control it though I wanted. If there were no friends, I have fallen asleep and, finally attending that class also useless. 

One day when I was writing in the book, I heard someone laugh as a dream. So, I woke up and, looked around without turning my head. Oh my god... I wrote the question and, I thought the teacher was explaining the answer. Though I was sleeping, I thought that why he was reading too fast. Lol... After that, a few paper rockets came towards my head and, it was a shame for me. When I was going out after finishing the class, one boy said that 'You are not waking up even after hitting a rocket...Lol... 

In that exam era, I went to a night class and, those days I stayed in the boarding place. There was a walking distance. That class was a group class, and there were about eight students. It started at four o'clock and ended at eight o'clock. There were a few students who came from different locations and, that's why the teacher started the class at four o'clock. 

That class held near our school and, I had to pass the school first to go there. It was a rainy day and, I left the boarding place to go to the class. Suddenly, a boy who also was going to that class came under my umbrella. He said that he could not bring the umbrella. He came in front of our school and, I was shocked for a moment as we had certain disciplinary rules. When we were wearing the school uniform, we could not share our umbrella with a boy. He asked 'Is that fine with you? I did not reply to him back though I did not like to breach our school rules. But I could not ask him to go out as well because of the rainy climate️. So, I went with him a few miles. 

After a few minutes, he said that 'I'm not coming to trouble you if I don't have books in my hand. Those are getting wet. That's why I came. I felt very angry with him. Same time I saw our class teacher at the bus halt and, she did not look at me. So, I asked him to go out by taking the books in his hand. I would not ask him to go out if he did not have that big head. When I was going to the class, he looked like a wet bird. He did not look at me even and, he wiped his head using his handkerchief. At that time, others were kidding and laughing at him.

After that incident, he did not look at me at all and, I think he got angry with me. I did not go to school on the following day as my class teacher was on the bus halt when this was happening. So, once I went to school, she smiled and asked 'Are you not well because of the rain? According to the way she smiled, I realized that she noticed the incident made by that idiot. Same time I thought that she would see the entire thing. Otherwise, I would be in the principal’s office on that day.

Learning in a tuition class was a different experience for some students who did not study in mixed schools. Those who have studied in a boys' or girls' school had to mix up in the tuition class. It was a pleasure for most of them. Though I studied in a convent at that time, the rest of the other schools I studied were mixed schools. So, it did not bring me a different exposure. Those days, most such students started love affairs. In some cases, there were fights as well to protect their love affairs. Some boys tried for one girl and, such situations made a crisis among them. 

Some boys also faced the same situation when several girls were trying to get their attention. We also had a pretty friend among us and, most of the boys followed her for her love. Sometimes it was a headache for her. Some boys waited and followed her when she was going somewhere. As we were her friends, we also had to give her details and convey their messages with our friends. So, though they did not follow us, we also had to share the details carefully and, we did it as per our friend's instructions. 

So, it was a punishment for a few friends including me. Sometimes I told whatever came to my mind. However, there was one situation where we communicated different details for the same question they asked. So, we all decided to get the exact answers from our pretty friend to answer the questions of her followers. One day one of our friends saw that one boy was waiting for my friend to convey a message and, get some details.

However, that friend could not get the instructions from our beauty queen on that day and, she was clueless. So, what she did was, she ran away in another route to avoid that boy. However, she could not close the eyes of that boy and, he also ran and followed her. She could not run a long way and, she had fallen on the road. The funniest thing was, that boy was the one who helped her to stand up. The other people also came to support her. So, he did not ask anything from her. After that incident, he did not ask anything from her. Though she got rid of that problem, he got the details from us as usual and, we communicated the details as per the instructions of our beauty queen.

In the tuition classes, we met friends from different nationalities as well. It was a good experience we all had and, some of them are still good friends. Those friendships have a strong bond with each other like siblings. I think it's a bit difficult to find out honest friends when you are an adult. Just do a small analysis and see who are your actual friends. Then you can see still the remaining best gang is coming from your childhood or school days. 

So, I hope we can build up a strong relationship among different nationalities if we have schools without religion-wise or gender-wise differentiation. One good example is one of our father's friend who is coming from another nationality. He is one best friend from my father's childhood. 

He was the one who supported my father when he was not well. In one year, there was a flood in our area and, our house also severely damaged because of that situation. At that time, he brought food for us. He swam and brought it to us. It was not an easy task to swim in that cold water as he was not a young man to struggle with the water. My father said that the job he did won't do with his own brother even in that situation. We were very emotional at that time. I think we can build up such a strong friendship among the different nationalities via the concept of a mixed school which can bring different people under one roof. 

Otherwise, we would see them as aliens, once we have to move with each other as adults.

25.0 Tuition Class! A Place To Study, Have Fun & Grow Your Community

As I mentioned in the first part of the tuition class, the worst bad habit I had was getting late. There was at least a five-minute delay. So, sometimes I missed my friends as I could not find out where they have seated in the class. In such a situation, I went to whatever free space available and sat there. 

One day, I could not find out my friends and, the entire whole was crowded with many students. I did not take more than one minute to find out a suitable place to sit as it made others laugh. So, I did not need to get their attention and, I sat in any free space available. On that day also I looked at the class by giving a quick look. At that time, I saw a free space and, no one was there in the entire area.

I was so happy about my finding. But once I sat there, I got to know that there was dust on the seat and desk. But I did not care much and, kept my whole books there. When I was moving my books, I saw that there was a thin dust layer in my books and, I thought to wipe them in the lunch break. However, our class teacher went out for a few minutes by asking us to resolve a question. At that time, I thought to wipe the dust using a facial tissue I had at that time. Oh my god... The entire area had filled with many deep dust layers. Some layers kept as mud, and I think this could not manage with facial tissues. As I tried to remove, the pasted dust also came out and, I sneezed continuously. Once I looked at others in the class, I saw that they were looking at me. It was fun for them.

The tuition classes located in different areas of the city. We had to go to some sub-streets which were not in the main town. So, there were no vehicles on some streets and, most of the people used those as short cuts. So, those areas were not crowded. Because of this reason, most of the couples used those streets to spend some time with their girl/boyfriend. 

There was such one lane and, 'Love lane' was its name. Apart from the couples, there were a few guys who had a mental illness as well. They wanted to show their naked bodies to the girls who were using that street. Some of our friends also saw these people. So they got scared and returned home without going to the classes. I also used that street to go to classes, but I did not face such an incident. One day I saw a guy who just stood in the road doing nothing. It's like he was waiting for someone. He did not carry any bag and, had a weird jobless look. He was staring at me till I passed him. I also did not care about him, but I could not forget his appearance and, the look he gave. So, once I went to the class, I told about this guy. My friends said that it was him, according to the appearance I explained. So, all of our gang wanted to use the same street to see him, though I asked them to use another route. One of our friends planned to do certain things as well if they could meet him. She wanted to bring a knife and, attack him. It made all of us laugh and, we said that he would take the knife from you and, hit you back. So, we asked her to not to give a knife to him.

Some of our tuition class teachers were strict as our school teachers. They held good discipline in their classes, and they wanted to give more apart from the subject they taught. So, they added lessons for our lives and, still, I could rewind their speeches. There was such one teacher for 'Physics and, I think he was the strictest tuition teacher I ever had.  

During his session, nobody could talk and, the class should be silent like nothing. He said that if someone needs to talk, he or she can take his mike and teach. Or else he asked them to go out as a punishment. Sometimes, he asked some questions and, pointed out someone for the answer. He did all of those things to keep the attention of the lessons he taught. So, most of the students maintained their maximum discipline in his class. 

One day, as usual, I could not find out my friends and, I sat in a free space available. There was a boy beside me and, I did not know him. He wore spectacles and, had a professor look. We just smiled at each other. So, our class teacher gave a maths question and asked us to resolve it. After a few minutes, I saw that guy did it quickly. So, he waited till I finished and, he asked whether I need support or not as well. Once I finished, he wanted to discuss the solution, though I did not need to listen to him. At that time, the teacher also ready to discuss the answer with the entire class. 

So, now he is explaining to me the answer and, our teacher also started the same. I was so scared of the teacher's reaction. As the class was so silent except these two lectures, the teacher could hear his explanation, and he looked at us. He looked at us for another few minutes, but our professor did not care about the teacher. I think he was sick and I felt angry with him. The teacher said that he did not want to remind the ground rules again and again. As usual, he said that only the teacher can speak when the lesson is going on. But that idiot did not listen. 


Then I asked him to stop his explanation and, listen to our teacher. Again, the teacher said ‘I may have to ask you two to go out if you did not stop talking. Then only that idiot stopped his lesson and, he asked 'you got my explanation, right? At that time, I wanted to kill him. One day, that teacher asked one boy to come to the front for a speech. Though it was not a punishment, we could see his shivering legs. So that was the situation and, I think that boy was a nut case. Otherwise, nobody won’t behave like this. So, as soon as he gave our lunch break, I moved to another place.

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