32.0 There Should Be A Preparation For Death As Well. Are You Ready?

Though all of us have to face our death, I do not think anyone wants to talk about it. Although we know about death, we are not ready to even hear it. It is a restricted word to our ears. However, there are a few things to say about this topic.

The first death that came to mind is the funeral of our family member. She was my father's elder brother's wife. So, it was a terrible situation for the entire family and, they worried for a long time. At that time her daughter was a ten-month-old kid. So, it was a pathetic situation for our family. By then I was six years old. I did not have much awareness of her death. Therefore, as I remembered, I did not worry about her death or her daughter.

However, I could remember how my father's elder brother was weeping by touching her dead body. Though I could not remember my feelings at that time, I saw the way that I was looking at him via a photo album which was kept with my father's younger brother. I had a sad look on my face and, I was looking at my father's elder brother. 

As the next memory, I could remember the death of my father's granny. At that time, she was very old. However, it was not a painful situation like that funeral. My father's younger brother has a photo album for her funeral too. But, most of them did not have worrying faces. I think it was an acceptable death for society because of her age. These two funerals were the key things I faced during my childhood.

Apart from these two incidents, I had to hear the death of my friends during my school time. When I was hearing one sad loss, I was in another school because of my father's job transfer. We were in another province as well. Therefore, I could not go to her funeral, and I got to know about her death from one of my friends. I could not imagine what happened and believe in her death. She had a heart attack in her teenage and, there was no clue even.

I could attend the funeral of my other friend. She is one of the most beautiful girls in our school, and many boys followed for her love. She lost her life because of an accident. It happened when she was trying to light the unsafe hearth. Actually, it was not an easy thing to stay there without crying when looking at her parents and sisters. They were weeping like nothing. You would be crying if you went to that funeral, though you were not her friend. That was the situation they had, and they could not bear up her loss. On that day, I saw how difficult for parents to bear up the loss of their children.

That funeral was the death of my friend's younger brother. It also happened during our school days. It was an accident, and it happened when my friend was reversing his vehicle. At that time, he did not see his brother. That death brought an unbearable situation to his parents. As it was the death of an innocent kid, the entire village worried for a couple of months.

When I was working, there was a death of a few of my friends and known colleagues. Some of them died at a young age because of certain diseases they suffered from stress. One person was not my friend and he taught us when we were doing our higher studies. After the higher studies, I moved to the same office he worked in. He was a nice person and, he taught 'Java' computer language nicely. He could do that job without giving the pressure. However, he died because of the work pressure he had and at that time he was a newly married guy as well. 

The other death happened very recently and it happened at his home. It was an accident. He was also a nice guy to our office mates. Still, I can remember his funny behaviors in an office workshop. There was a game and based on the actions they played others should tell their designation. So, when it came to my turn I said 'A bus driver. However, it was not and later on, I had to provide reasons for that observation. I went to his funeral and, I cannot forget his wife’s eyes which expressed a lot of things than her tears. It consists of unbearable sad for the loss of her loved one. Those days I remembered it from time to time and it was a pain. Still, he has his Facebook account and, sometimes his wife shares some posts by tagging him. Those times, I prayed for her to console her soul.

In addition to the deaths of known ones, pathetic incidents happened in the wartime of our country. It was thirty years war and finally ended in 2009. At that time there was a death of many including civil citizens, army and enemies. Among them, there was a boyfriend of one of my friends as well. It was an unbearable situation for her and, we did not have a way to console her even. It was a terrible situation. The Tsunami was another unfortunate incident we faced as Sri Lankans. It vanished a lot of lives and that kind of tragedy never happened to our country. It was the very first time. Therefore, nobody aware of the Tsunami though they lived with the sea. 

Recently also we faced a loss of many because of a suicide bomber attack. It happened this Easter Sunday by aiming at several churches and hotels. When I was getting that news from one of my friends, I thought that she was lying. It was an unbelievable situation as per the environment of our country at that time. It took a few seconds to lose their lives and hopes of others. In some families, only one child remained by losing parents and other siblings. One lady lost her husband and two daughters, and there were many similar cases. May triple gems bless them!

According to my religion, Buddhism, reminding death is merit thought. It reminds us that we are not living forever. As well as I hope it is a good practice to do as that practice avoids the shock that comes to our minds when hearing the word 'Death. In any case, if we have to face death, it will console us up to some extent via that awareness. If you can listen for the sermon of 'Thiththagalle Anandasiri Thero, you can understand how important it is to our lives. Else definitely it would be a shock for a mind that does not have that practice.

A few years back, when I was suffering from wheeze, I think I faced a situation which is similar to the final death moment (Up to some extent. Sometimes, it would be a totally different experience). On that day, I thought that it was my last moment as I could not breathe at all. I could count how many times I inhaled and exhaled separately. It was a horrible situation. Once I inhaled, I could not exhale at once and I exhaled the breath into three portions. I thought that death would be more comfortable.

My parents could not bear up my situation and they were pissed off. Before they take me to a doctor, they were crying like two kids. It made me cry. Then I could not breathe than earlier when I was crying. But I could not stop it. I cried like an idiot. Within a few seconds, I remembered some incidents which happened from my childhood to that moment. It was like a movie.  Later on, I thought that the final moment would be similar to that experience according to the things I knew about the last moment. However, my next ego would not be a good one if it was the last moment of my life as I was crying like a buffalo. 

As we do not know about our last moment, we should keep our minds with good thoughts always. I know it’s not an easy job. However, I believe it can be done via the regular practice. If you can concentrate on your own thoughts, then that is it. You are a lucky human to keep your mind with merit thoughts by omitting sins.

Actually, what will happen to my blog if I die suddenly??? (There won't be any more posts. Lol...) Can I take any actions before my death? I think it is a good thing to think about now. What do you think about my buddies?

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29.0 Smile When You Have Teeth, My Dear Friends...

Though I started writing about this topic still, I don't know whether I have enough things to write. However, I wanted to take this topic for my blog to tell you the discrepancies I have noticed in between a smile and eye expressions of people. During my lifetime, I have been seeing that observation many times. By the way, I do not wish to highlight it first and, I think that you will focus on it more than the other things that I shared with you here. 

Actually, all of us would love to live with laughter and, take it into part of our life. Because a smile always implies the happiness of someone's life. There may be people who have a smile on their faces though they have been bearing up lots of problems. Actually, it is a pleasure to see such people with smiling faces. They are strong enough to hide their tears via a wide smile. You analyze the story of someone and, see the hurdles they have. You will identify how strong the personality they have.

I believe that the person who is reading this post also has such an amazing strong personality. If so, I love you, my dear buddy. I ask you to stay ahead in your life till the last moment. As soon as when I was writing these few lines, a few teardrops dragged at the end of the eyes. I am very emotional when I am imagining you all my friends. Sometimes, I have thought of such things, but I'm sharing these things as a written article first time.

At the very beginning of this write-up, I would request you to smile when you have teeth. Once you lose your teeth, there will be sound like 'Hoh Hoh Hoh... and, at that time majority do not want to see your smile. They won't wait to see your smiley face. Lol… As you know, only we can smile in this world and, I think it's a gift given by mother nature. I hope there is a lovely smile on your face now. Keep it with you. It's your own identity.

In my school life, there were famous friends because of their smiles. One of them was an elder sister and, everyone called her 'Laughing girl. The other one was a close friend of mine, and everyone said that she was laughing because of the abnormal food she ate. Those days, I love their companion as I could laugh with them. In addition to them, most of my friends loved my laughter as well. I got to know via the notes they put in my autograph when we all are leaving school. They did not forget to highlight how did I laugh by rotating and bending my entire body. That's how I came to know about it️. 

I had to face for punishments also during my school time because of laughter. However, I could not avoid it though they punished me. When all the friends were got together, there was a burst of laughter and, it was a never-ending one. I think it's common for anyone at that age. I hope you also have similar memories.

Those days, I could not control laughter in serious situations, and that was the hardest thing I ever had. That's why my mother blamed me a lot. When I was trying to control it, it was very inconvenient for me, and my cheeks were going to explode. There was a pain in my throat and I could not breathe properly. So, I did not like to face such situations, as it was very uncomfortable for me also. When there was a gathering with friends or cousins, we laughed like crazy idiots. 

In our school days, all of us had a similar mindset, I think. One day, I went to a funeral with my cousins and, one of the family members of the funeral house came to welcome us. At that time, my cousin smiled with him joyfully and, it was not suitable for that occasion. All of us noticed her foolish action and our elders got angry with her. However, now I feel like we did not have good discipline and, most often my mother said the same. Still, I could not understand the behavior we had in those days.

One day I did a crazy thing with one of my cousin sisters. At that time, we were in our grandmother’s home, and it was a family gathering. We two in the yard and, our grannies house situated near the main road. We smiled with people on the road by showing different actions. We did not do it for people who were walking. So, we selected some people who were going by cars and vans. I think all of them would think about us as mentally sick idiots. Most of them confused, and they did not smile back with us. They just looked at us until they could not see us. We two also waved our hands until they passed a few miles. A very few young guys smiled back with us and, our actions made them laugh. However, we enjoyed ourselves a lot.

This incident happened in my first computer class. I went to that class after the advanced level examination. At that time, I did not have a computer even and, it was the first deal with IT. Lol... Though everybody was well disciplined during the lectures, our usual habits came out in the computer labs. There was something for us to laugh. My friend's condition was worse than mine. Always I had asked my friend to behave well. 

I could not manage my laugh when she was behaving like a crazy one. One day one of the instructors in the lab warned both of us saying that they have medicine to stop our laugh. Though I embarrassed my friend laughed by ignoring his warning. So, he asked my friend to move, to another seat which was in another row. The funny thing was he asked her to sit near her boyfriend. Finally, it made all of us laugh and he warned the entire class. Those days we did not have general computer knowledge even. One day there was a practical computer exam and both of us had zero marks. That was the only zero mark I got for my entire education history. 

We two could not realize how did we get zero for that exam. I was embarrassed at seeing the zero, in front of our names on the Notice Board. But my friend said that it was an unforgettable situation to celebrate. Again, it made me laugh, and that was another fun day we had in that computer class.

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