I think the nannies could make an impact on kids as they are the people who surrounded in kids for a whole day. As per the scientist view, the first five years of a child is the foundation for the rest of their life. The child used to capture everything as they do not have decision making power to make a choice. So, the family environment and family members should be good enough to offer the best to them. My grandfather always said that I had a good background during my childhood. Later on, I understood his view as an adult. However, I had both good and bad experiences with our nannies during my childhood. This story tells about them.
Time to time there were a few caretakers during our childhood to look after us as parents were not at home in the daytime. So, there was someone at our home until I turned around seven to eight-year-old. There were some ladies in different age groups. Some of them like our aunts while others were like our grannies. The one who mentioned as ‘Renuka’ in my previous article was such a lovely person. So, among them, there were a few who liked us well and, there were many who disliked us as we were not obedient kids.
I can tell you that this person rolled out many changes in our lives. However, we cannot directly point out their mistakes, when thinking about nasty behaviors we had as little ones. So, one nanny used to get my support for her work when my parents were not at home. She asked me to work on some tasks. I don’t know why I didn’t make any complaint against this situation which had been happening from a reasonable time. Sometimes that might be the skills of that person.
She asked me to take the clothes from outside at rainy times and, asked me to hang them back when the rain was over. That was one main duty I had those days and, I obeyed with such advice well. As well as she asked me to clean the stuff once my sister finished playing. I had to keep the toys in order. Meantime I had to help for her love affair as well while doing these small jobs. It was like this. In those days our home was on a roadside and, that boy worked with some road renovations. He was a pleasant and fair boy who had curly hair. His smile also an attractive one. I think that smile made him more attractive and added value to him. As I remember, I saw this boy when we were flying kites via our window. When we were flying kites, our small kite fell down and, he helped us to get it back. On another day also, we saw him again when we play near that window. Now he became a friend and, always he offered his friendly smile for us even though he didn’t talk with us. So, one day I got another duty from my take carer and, she asked me to ask his name. I also did the job well without any hesitation and, it was a pleasure for me as well at that time.
However, now I do not remember what the name was but it was the first step of that love story, I think. That's what happened, of course. That's why we spent most of the time near the window by playing and flying kites as per our nanny’s wish. As we didn’t inform this to our mother, this went well without any hindrance. As little ones, we also did not see any specialty to tell my mother. However, this was not a secret anymore as my mother caught up when she was trying to exchange some letters. Later on, I do not remember what had happened. But that incident was one of the best I can remember with our nannies stuff.
Later on, there was a big mess because of that nanny and, it created further problems.
As you know, we loved cats a lot. So, we always used to play with them and pet them when we were playing. But this person did not like cats and, she hated them. She did not want to see them with us. So, every time she tried to keep them away. In one day, this big riot happened once I fed the cats with some biscuits. As well as she complained that she had to clean all the stuff and, it's a never-ending job. Those were certain things she used to blame us. Parallel the never-ending ‘Meaww’ of our cat was a big headache for her. Our one also used to make the trouble even we fed many times. So, one day she tortured the cat and, said that she cannot bear up this trouble anymore. I also got angry by looking at our cat and, my limits were over at that time. As I could not bear up to it anymore, I also hit her and, both of us were very angry at that time. Suddenly, she took the cat and, threw away towards me saying 'Keep this bladdy shit with you. As per the nature of cats, he tried to hang in my body and then his sharp nails wounded me.
So, my sister hit her using the doll in her hand and, it made her angry a lot. When my parents came home, there was a big riot in the home. However, they could get to know some details from our neighbors even though they did not come to visit us when this was going on. Later on, I got to know that they revealed everything and, they told everything about chores I did at home as per her instructions. My mother and my father were very upset about this and, worried a lot as they did not know about this situation before. Finally, what has happened was, that person had to leave us the next day. My father asked her to go home as soon as possible. As well as mother had to stay home and looked after us. It was a loss for her and, she worried about her job for a couple of months.
There was another lady who used to eat foods reserved for our use. She did not do it as a wrong thing and, did that saying the foods she ate were not good for us. Anyway, I remembered how she had fruits using that manner. We did not ask any more questions from her and let her have. Another one was a granny and, she used to pick us after school. So, every day she came to school. Those days I had a habit of dropping my school friends to their homes. Therefore, I used different routes to come home to do my duty and, it took about an additional half an hour to do this. So, this granny was real trouble for me and, I could not do my hobby when she came to pick me. As a solution, I told my parents that my friends identified her as my own granny and it was ashamed of me. So, I asked them to, not to send her to school. Finally, my parents agreed with me and, they let me come back home with my other school friends as I was in grade four those days. However, my mother could notice the late and again that granny came to pick me.
So, among all these people, ‘Renuka’ was the best lady we ever had. Right now, I don’t know about her. She was a kind and honest person. Apart from that, there was another relative elder sister who loved us and cared about us.
My personal opinion is that looking after a child is not just a job and, the nanny won't be able to do that if she/he does not love kids. I think they should have an inner willingness to correct the mistakes of little ones. To bear up to these things, they should have patience and kind thoughts about children. Otherwise, I think it's not kind of a job which can be done for a monthly payment like other jobs. I can see this situation nowadays by looking at my sister’s little one and his nannies. However, I think that the best people to look after them are their parents and grandparents. According to the childhood experience I had and the things I can see in this environment, I think some other person does not feel honest and loving feeling much. At any moment there is a higher probability for them to make physical or mental harm to little ones.
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