10.0 Nannies! We Made Them Crazy & Now They Are Horrible...

I think the nannies could make an impact on kids as they are the people who surrounded in kids for a whole day. As per the scientist view, the first five years of a child is the foundation for the rest of their life. The child used to capture everything as they do not have decision making power to make a choice. So, the family environment and family members should be good enough to offer the best to them. My grandfather always said that I had a good background during my childhood. Later on, I understood his view as an adult. However, I had both good and bad experiences with our nannies during my childhood. This story tells about them.

Time to time there were a few caretakers during our childhood to look after us as parents were not at home in the daytime. So, there was someone at our home until I turned around seven to eight-year-old. There were some ladies in different age groups. Some of them like our aunts while others were like our grannies. The one who mentioned as ‘Renuka’ in my previous article was such a lovely person. So, among them, there were a few who liked us well and, there were many who disliked us as we were not obedient kids.

I can tell you that this person rolled out many changes in our lives. However, we cannot directly point out their mistakes, when thinking about nasty behaviors we had as little ones. So, one nanny used to get my support for her work when my parents were not at home. She asked me to work on some tasks. I don’t know why I didn’t make any complaint against this situation which had been happening from a reasonable time. Sometimes that might be the skills of that person. 

She asked me to take the clothes from outside at rainy times and, asked me to hang them back when the rain was over. That was one main duty I had those days and, I obeyed with such advice well. As well as she asked me to clean the stuff once my sister finished playing. I had to keep the toys in order. Meantime I had to help for her love affair as well while doing these small jobs. It was like this. In those days our home was on a roadside and, that boy worked with some road renovations. He was a pleasant and fair boy who had curly hair. His smile also an attractive one. I think that smile made him more attractive and added value to him. As I remember, I saw this boy when we were flying kites via our window. When we were flying kites, our small kite fell down and, he helped us to get it back. On another day also, we saw him again when we play near that window. Now he became a friend and, always he offered his friendly smile for us even though he didn’t talk with us. So, one day I got another duty from my take carer and, she asked me to ask his name. I also did the job well without any hesitation and, it was a pleasure for me as well at that time.

However, now I do not remember what the name was but it was the first step of that love story, I think. That's what happened, of course. That's why we spent most of the time near the window by playing and flying kites as per our nanny’s wish. As we didn’t inform this to our mother, this went well without any hindrance. As little ones, we also did not see any specialty to tell my mother. However, this was not a secret anymore as my mother caught up when she was trying to exchange some letters.  Later on, I do not remember what had happened. But that incident was one of the best I can remember with our nannies stuff. 

Later on, there was a big mess because of that nanny and, it created further problems. 

As you know, we loved cats a lot. So, we always used to play with them and pet them when we were playing. But this person did not like cats and, she hated them. She did not want to see them with us. So, every time she tried to keep them away. In one day, this big riot happened once I fed the cats with some biscuits. As well as she complained that she had to clean all the stuff and, it's a never-ending job. Those were certain things she used to blame us. Parallel the never-ending ‘Meaww’ of our cat was a big headache for her. Our one also used to make the trouble even we fed many times. So, one day she tortured the cat and, said that she cannot bear up this trouble anymore. I also got angry by looking at our cat and, my limits were over at that time. As I could not bear up to it anymore, I also hit her and, both of us were very angry at that time. Suddenly, she took the cat and, threw away towards me saying 'Keep this bladdy shit with you. As per the nature of cats, he tried to hang in my body and then his sharp nails wounded me.

So, my sister hit her using the doll in her hand and, it made her angry a lot. When my parents came home, there was a big riot in the home. However, they could get to know some details from our neighbors even though they did not come to visit us when this was going on. Later on, I got to know that they revealed everything and, they told everything about chores I did at home as per her instructions. My mother and my father were very upset about this and, worried a lot as they did not know about this situation before. Finally, what has happened was, that person had to leave us the next day. My father asked her to go home as soon as possible. As well as mother had to stay home and looked after us. It was a loss for her and, she worried about her job for a couple of months. 

There was another lady who used to eat foods reserved for our use. She did not do it as a wrong thing and, did that saying the foods she ate were not good for us. Anyway, I remembered how she had fruits using that manner. We did not ask any more questions from her and let her have. Another one was a granny and, she used to pick us after school. So, every day she came to school. Those days I had a habit of dropping my school friends to their homes. Therefore, I used different routes to come home to do my duty and, it took about an additional half an hour to do this. So, this granny was real trouble for me and, I could not do my hobby when she came to pick me. As a solution, I told my parents that my friends identified her as my own granny and it was ashamed of me. So, I asked them to, not to send her to school. Finally, my parents agreed with me and, they let me come back home with my other school friends as I was in grade four those days. However, my mother could notice the late and again that granny came to pick me.

So, among all these people, ‘Renuka’ was the best lady we ever had. Right now, I don’t know about her. She was a kind and honest person. Apart from that, there was another relative elder sister who loved us and cared about us.

My personal opinion is that looking after a child is not just a job and, the nanny won't be able to do that if she/he does not love kids. I think they should have an inner willingness to correct the mistakes of little ones. To bear up to these things, they should have patience and kind thoughts about children. Otherwise, I think it's not kind of a job which can be done for a monthly payment like other jobs. I can see this situation nowadays by looking at my sister’s little one and his nannies. However, I think that the best people to look after them are their parents and grandparents. According to the childhood experience I had and the things I can see in this environment, I think some other person does not feel honest and loving feeling much. At any moment there is a higher probability for them to make physical or mental harm to little ones.

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6.0 Robinhood! Sick And Tired Of Doing Games The Old Way? Read This.

As children, we watched some cartoon series and dramas. Out of them 'Robinhood' was the Best Drama. Today also I can see their posts and photos on social media like Facebook. I used to share it as soon as possible with others. I think Robinhood and his amazing gang will be in my mind till death.

Robinhood is a legend on-screen character we adored a lot in our childhood. Today also we love that story as we did in our past. Even now it’s a pleasure to hear the theme song which gives the cherished feeling and, remembered the childhood memories. This was the most loved story of many, including me, my younger sister, cousins, and, friends. Because of this, there are a lot of memories in this regard. We used to create our own stories by gaining some little parts of this story and, played accordingly. Still, those are certainly fond of memories we have today.

This was the incident that comes to mind when hearing that word Robinhood. So, in those days, I'm becoming accustomed to writing letters. I could not practice one letter ('ළ'), even though I completed the entire Sinhala Alphabet. Because I did not have much enthusiasm for it, it was something that couldn't be composed. On that day also I was practicing to write that letter and, one of my uncles (Maama) also was there. I used to call him 'Putu Putu Maama' and, used the words 'Putu Putu' because of the sound of his bike. He also liked that name and, therefore I used this name for ten to twelve years. When I was practicing this letter, time near began ‘Robinhood’ drama. So, I went to switch on Television by dropping this work and, that letter was in a very primary stage which requires more exertion to finish. My uncle noticed that for which work I gave my priority and he said that 'You should finish this letter composing first, before watching Robinhood'. 

Weeping Heart! Ohh Damn…  To whom do I tell this situation??  They would agree with my uncle definitely as this task has been hauling for quite a while without a decent outcome. So, I had to go back even without switching on TV with a crying heart.  “Even though there is a similar letter in 'Sinhala' alphabet, for what reason do these idiots have another letter?” It was the thought I had and, I blamed the people who were in charge of introducing this bladdy letter to the alphabet. So, now this is the time which I felt that I ought to write this letter by hook or by crook. 

‘Robinhood’ drama was telecasting about one-hour and, I did not want to miss out any single moment. I considered it a big unfortunate of me if I could not watch it for a couple of moments. As well as we were hoping to watch this for one week. Anyway, I could finish the work and demonstrated it to my uncle. But the completeness was not enough for him and, he asked “This part from the letter should be composed on the upper side of the ruler and rest should descend. Else this cannot be accepted as a completed task”. At that time, nearly I lost fifteen minutes of the story... 

It was not the Internet Era! This was the saddest thing ever happened for me. You can imagine my situation if you are also a fan of this story. My uncle was not ready to give up this bladdy letter. However, I could finish and, get the approval for completeness after putting my maximum effort. But, the drama was almost over. In those days we didn’t have facilities like the Internet to watch the programs we missed. So, it was a big thing to worry about for a few days. However, my uncle was very happy as I finished the task which has been pending for a long time. 

Finally, I did that task expressing gratitude toward Robinhood. So, when that happened in that way, there was another desire where I might want to watch most loved Television programs with my companions. 

The Struggle! Even though my sister was there to fulfill this requirement, she was not coordinated for me due to the military situation I had with her at home. We used to struggle for the seats we used to sit and, watch TV. There were two separate seats for us to sit in the living room as a solution given by parents. Therefore, I knew that it was not possible to share the best moments of Favorite Programs with her. So, I asked one of my friends to come to our home and watch ‘Robinhood’ drama. 

One day she came to watch this drama. I convinced her visit as an unplanned one for my mother.  Later on, my mother got to know the actual situation once my friend came on next weekend as well to watch television with me.  But my mother didn’t tell anything to me and, acted as nothing happened. But what she did was, she evacuated a couple of wires which require to switch on the TV and, let us watch this drama. Badly, I missed the entire program on that day. My friend, as well.

Everyone wanted to play the role of Robinhood even though there was a crew in his team and, nobody else ever preferred to be Gisborne or Sheriff.

 

So, this was a big problem for us where we needed to get the solutions and opinions from our adults after numerous contentions.  After that, we decided to write the name of the Robinhood and his team in chits and, selected characters randomly. But it was a temporary solution and, we had to stop that method once we found two chits with the name of Robinhood.  As the next decision, we decided to play the role of Robinhood for half an hour and, everybody got the opportunity to play as Robinhood.  Finally, it helped to manage the critical situation.

In addition to this game, we played another game called ‘Kumari’ (Princess). 

Crazy Cousins! It's sort of a drama about the story of a Princess who has two servants and few demons. Now when we remember this story, it made us laugh. In those days my father’s elder brother’s daughter was the youngest among our cousins. So, she was the Princess in this drama.  I was a servant of that princess and, one of my cousin sisters also was a servant. That sister was the daughter of my father’s sister. She is five months younger than me. Now she is not in Sri Lanka either.  But we are Good Buddies from childhood. We used to wear similar clothes, particularly in the new year season and, we had that habit for a long time. In that drama, my younger sister and another cousin brother acted as demons. One day we carried our princess using a bedsheet. Our princess was a chubby kid and, it was not an easy task to hold her for us as little servants. Therefore, my cousin younger sister peed in the same place.

So, once seen this everyone laughed a lot. We too could not hold our princess anymore and, she fell down to the ground. After that, it became another amusement for us and, we spread Pee in the entire room using our foot and, slipped everywhere until the point when we got the attention of my mother. 

Apart from Robinhood, Badminton was another game we played. But it was not an easy task to manage as nobody liked to bring the shuttlecock back when it went far away. Every time we played this game a maximum of one hour as we could not do this peacefully. When thinking about these things I think we had got the maximum benefits and, our childhood was awesome. I think today Mobile Phone kids also will enthusiasm for this sort of childhood if they have opportunities to do as such. 

As readers, you also will definitely have remarkable memories of this story. 

Where is our Heros? Sometime you may think that for what reason did she expound on ‘Robinhood’ when there are many heroes in Sri Lanka. As I thought this will be a reason for them to criticize me, I thought to note down this also. However, I would like to accept it as a good observation. I watched this story from one channel called ‘Jaathika Rupavahin’ and, as I remember there were two television channels in those days. In those days they have published extremely decent and valuable programs for kids. Certain dubbed programs of ‘Taitus Thotawantha’ were such a good example. However, there was no program that discussed our own Sri Lankan heroes who could invade our minds as kids.  

If there was a program like a story of ‘Madduma Bandara’ for us as kids, it had been a great idea. 

It was an inspired book!  There was a book about national heroes including this child legend and, it gifted by my father. I can remember that I imagined these stories and I felt proud about the history of our country after reading that book. In those days, I also would like to become a Hero like ‘Madduma Bandara’ because of his bravery actions against the Death order. There were certain poems in that book and, still I can recall a little piece of one lyric and, it says that “As Childs, we should remind our national heroes and, we should behave according to them.” 

I think this could plant good thoughts about our country, nationality and, religion in the minds of kids even those are very little ballads or wordings. I believe the feelings, the things we saw and, memories in our childhood, decide the next steps of life. So, it will influence a Positive or Negative way and, we should give more priority to give valuable creations to a child’s mind. If we ask a kid to sing a song or ask them to name their favorite programs, then you can identify the current situation. If we take a few programs as examples, I don’t think that there is our own valuable thing to give them.

So, if you have an awful perspective of this story, I'll need to reveal to you this is the reason I like this program without a doubt. But I’m pretty sure you are also an aficionado of Robinhood. 

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4.0 Do Respect Elders & Friends Better Than Seth Godin. The Ultimate Guide For You!

                             

This short story comprises of specific traditions limited to our Sri Lankan culture. I think, we have our own customs and traditions with regard to Respecting Elders. 

This series of incidents happened when I was three to six years of age kid. I could say that these stories are very memorable to me.  

Job Transfers! So that day came with a job transfer of my father and, he has to move to another area. Those days my memories have attached to the river I had bathed, ducks and that ‘Soldare’ (Upstairs) in my friend’s house. But I do not remember the feelings I had when we had to leave that place. However, I was joyfully prepared to go to the new house. Every item of the house has stacked into a major lorry and, there were a couple of companions of my father to help us. But I do not remember how I left my friend and, I couldn't recall whether she was there or not even. She was not there, I think.

A woman who took care of me and, my sister additionally joined us to go to the new place and, her mother also came to visit us on that day. As per our Sinhalese traditions we used to respect our elders by adoring when we need to greet or express farewell to them. However, we used this tradition with very close relatives and respectable elders only.  In any case, we utilized this convention with close relatives and good Elders as they were. So, on that day I needed to keep up this convention with numerous elders as we are abandoning them.  Most of them asked me to behave well. I think some of them might think that it’s good to lose our company because of the small troubles they faced with me. 

So, this is the most valuable episode that occurred on that day and, I would state that is the most key respect I showed to an elder amid my lifetime.  

Culture Vs Feelings! Among numerous elders, I pick our take carer's ('Renuka') mother as a reasonable elder to state farewell by following up on our customs. If you exactly do not know the way we are following up on this tradition, I will try to explain it in this way. This is actually kind of respect that we are showing to our elders as younger. Here we should keep our knees, hands, and head on the floor by twisting back well in front of the elder’s foot.

That Incident! At that time, as a child, I might not think about her as our baby sitter’s mother. I may think about her as a mother of the most soft-hearted and genuine person. There are various reasons to state that 'Renuka' was the best woman who cared for us well among numerous in our childhood. I don't know the amount of tolerance she had when considering my tolerance limits with my sister's little one. I used to deal with my patience hard when I needed to deal with him for a couple of hours. However, 'Renuka' was an extremely kind-hearted individual who adored us and took care of us for a long time. I used to drink milk only if it has prepared by mother or ‘Renuka’ in those days.  

As I remembered, ‘Renuka’ needed to roll out a few improvements in food before feeding me. If she came prepared milk to drink, then the first time it’s excessively hot. Second-time sugar was not enough and, the third time I said there’s no foam in the milk cup.  In this way, to roll out these improvements, she went to the kitchen, a few times without saying anything. Always we could see her affection through her eyes too. I think it was a legitimate and regular inclination to respect 'Renuka's mother by following up on our traditions. However, you realize that others can't envision these things at first sight and they got irate with me. Even though I could not see any reactions, I got the result as soon as I moved to the new place. I got numerous recommendations in regard to the methods for choosing elders who are reasonable for our respect and, they revealed to me that they felt disgrace as a result of me. It was a reason for them to worry for a few days. 

However, I still feel that the lady blessed me with her honest thoughts.  

When I was respecting her, she told me many things as blessings and, hugged me. The genuine tears in her poor eyes touched my heart and, I felt happy with her companion that day. Sometimes it may be a memorable moment for her as well, even though she also a bit confused and inconvenient due to an unexpected incident. The other memorable incident happened when I was in grade one. There was a convention to offer our respects to our class instructor as per Sinhalese traditions, before leaving school. For some reason, instantly, I went over a few tables without holding up in the line and respected my class teacher. It might be the hurry I had to return home. However, the manner in which I adored was not impeccable and, I did it without twisting my head much. My teacher noticed my behavior and asked ‘Don’t your parents teach you the way of respecting us’ by consolidating all the faults I did at that time. Now you know how I have adored and respected elders right. Lol...

Even I did not tell this to my mother, later on, she got to know it from a few of my classmates’ mothers. However, after this incident, I used to respect them by keeping my hands, knees, and head on the floor by twisting my back well. I didn’t make this mistake again when respecting teachers who taught me. I recalled this incident every time when I have to respect them.

On the other hand, there was another practice when saying Goodbye to my friends. 

My Tradition! On those days I hugged and kissed my friends when leaving school as a good-bye practice. So, I used to hug every girl and boyfriends and, I thought it shows my companionship to them till I meet them the next day. Most of the time I came back with my mother or a lady who looked after us and, they saw this practice many times. But there were no complaints from them. However, I had to stop this practice in one day once my father came to pick me from school. So, as usual, I hugged my every friend and returned home with my father. On the next day as well, my father observed this practice once he came to pick me.

Actually, I don't comprehend what's your opinion about the next sentences that I will right now.

I'm writing about the scene. As you know, beef is not acceptable nourishment according to Sinhalese traditions.  However, according to my view, there ought to be the same consistency for every animal. Therefore, we realized that beef is not worthy of food from a kid's age. If you are a beef lover, you think about, feeling about clans who eat human meats and, it will comprehend the comparable inclination we had those days. In this case, my father exhorted me not to hug them as they are eating beef as their nourishment. I don’t know how to explain the exact feeling I had at that time honestly. However, it was not pleasant for me. I always remembered the innocent brown colored cow stretched out in the backyard of our housing scheme. I felt very sorry about that animal. I worried and cried a lot. 

But my father's technique worked fine. 

Very recently I got to know that sad and unpleasant thoughts are also sin after listening for a sermon of  ‘Ven Thiththagalle Anandasiri’ Thero. (Sermon: "Maha Sinha Nadaya")

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