68.0 People In The Workplace. The Hidden Crowd!

When looking back the past few weeks, I understood that most of the people do not like to read or watch any more about Corona. Corona, Corona… What is this? I think it increases that pressure when living with it. When does shit over? However, when you are getting angry with this situation, please remember that this is a result of human actions. Okay..? I too believe that it's good to focus our mind on different productive things in this stage without thinking about it in unnecessary fear. So, I believe the time and effort you put here to read this article is a productive thing for your lives. Lol... 

After the previous article that was written about a balanced mind, I don't expect to write any more about this global pandemic after this analysis. So, today I'm moving back to reveal another stage of jobs I did. It's all about the people I dealt with though they were not my coworkers. But they helped us to do our job in various ways. This is a lovely gift for all of them. I know none of them won't read my article. It is not the purpose either. I don't expect them to read. But you, the one who reads this can think more about them than earlier. I believe that this will help to have a new view of them. You will look at them in a different and nice way.

As I said in the post, A lovely gift for IT guys..., that work exposure changed me. I could say that it happened for both good and bad sides. Later on, I’ll explain what are those bad sides? Please be patient… When I was leaving my home to join with that job, I could not manage my stuff without the support of others. Somehow, I wanted somebody for my support. So, the very first month was a horrible one for me. From beginning to the end of the day consisted of challenges apart from the work stuff. Among all, washing clothes was a big headache, and I used to bring my dirty clothes home and bring them back after washing when I was coming from my home.

When thinking about it now, I know how silly it was. Lol... So, I carried a huge bag on Fridays and Mondays for this purpose. Meantime, I was like an employee of a courier service company. When my parents asked me to give seasonal fruits kind of things to my uncle, then that bag was full of all those stuff. One day I brought some mangoes from home. 

We had to keep our bags in the outside and sometimes I forgot to bring it back when leaving the office. So, on that day, my bag was filled with washed clothes and mangoes. I kept it on a Monday, and I forgot to take it on Tuesday also. So, when it comes to Wednesday, I could feel the smell of mangoes and security guys also questioned about it from me. The same thing happened a few times. Therefore, those security guys used to remind me about the things I brought when I'm leaving the office. Lol...

When remembering them, I have a nice memory of them. All of us were kind to each other. They were the people who greet us when we were entering and leaving the office. So, it was nice to have a small chat with them in these two moments. Some of them gave gossip tips and I think they let us come up with more details. So, there was a good relationship among some of our colleagues and them with regard to the sharing of gossip information. Lol... There was one lady and we knew that weakness. As we could not bring the stuff to our cubicle areas, we passed some foodstuff to our cubicles while letting her talk with one of our friends. Though it was a small cunning work done for a few food packs, it burnt a few liters of our blood. One of our colleagues said that it's totally fine because we did it for a pregnant lady. However, we were a greedy gang when she was eating that special food. Lol...

Apart from them, the team who brought tea and snacks for us did a great job. They were very friendly to us. I remember the way they served Tea as per the different requirements of us. Some of our colleagues wanted to have tea or coffee with a little sugar and some of them wanted plain tea in the morning and coffee in the evening. 

Some of them wanted to have sugarless tea. Sometimes our ladies and girls changed their requirements very often. Lol... Those days I was late to go to the office on Mondays as I was coming from my home. As there was a flexible hour’s schedule, it was not a problem. So, morning tea time was over when I was going there on Monday. But they were kind enough to give my tea irrespective of their schedule. 

One day I met a Tea uncle in another office. There were a few friends who worked with me in an ex-office. So, it was a nice meeting with that uncle and our gang. It was an innocent get together where we shared and reminded our joyful memories. At that time also, he asked whether I would like to have a Tea.

The people who did the cleaning service is the other crowd. If I could not put a note about them, then it is lacking. Some of them were friendly to us. The time we used the washroom was the time they used to reveal their life journeys. Most of them were filled with many difficulties. 

There was one lady and she was old. She had her grandchildren too. When I was looking at her, always I thought that she is not physically strong enough to do cleaning stuff. She said that she is leaving home around 5 am to come to our office. So, it was not an easy job for her. However, she did not worry about her job or physical conditions. She came every day and did her job well. When our team gives a small gift to her at the year-end, she was so happy. Apart from her, there was one young gent and one of his kids had a tumor in the brain. For surgeries and medicine, our office crowd helped him a lot with his expenses. There was another lady and she was a bit tough. She blamed the people who did not keep the washroom clean. She used to say “now we are cleaning the others bladdy shits because of the bad karma we did in our past. In the next ego, you will do our job”.  However, nobody talked against her though we had to hear that curse when she was working on our floor. I was happy about our reactions as we could see her inner war.

The others were the drivers who gave transport to us when we were working till night. That office arranged cabs for us to go home. They were very disciplined people, and I think nobody made a complaint about them. Some of them thought we have a wonderful and happening job life. I think it's because of the chit chats we had with transport buddies. Lol... Some of them understood our real situation. They knew how hard time we had with such a work schedule. So, they instructed us to keep our health. There was one mature person and he always asked us not to use cold water for shower after working till late at night.

Regarding the coworkers, I could say that I'm lucky to have a few lifetime friends. Apart from them, I had a professional relationship with others. As everybody was not good for me, I was not good for everyone too. As I had a blacklist, I was in some other's blacklists too. As you know it cannot be avoided. So, looking back past, it was a wonderful journey to rewind. Some incidents gave good lessons for life. Still, there are some improvements to consider. But I hope that awareness directs me to the best path. 

I think this is a bit long article when comparing to previous posts.  I can write many things. Though there are many things to talk about "People at the workplace", I don't think that it is useful for you all. Here, I'm revealing this side of people because of one purpose that I have mentioned at the beginning.

The other important thing is, my career journey did not go with the other's favorations. It is all about hard-working, enormous effort, and courage. Apart from the financial benefits that I'm gaining today, that is the most rewarded thing I can share with you as a person who dealt according to the conscience.

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22.0 The Guide For How to Enjoy Shopping And Return Home As Zombies.

It was not an easy thing to shopping with that cousin's sister. Even she bought a small thing, she compared its price with all the other aspects. So, one day I went to about ten shops to buy shoes for her and, I think we covered the whole shoe area. As my legs were painful and, tired like nothing we had our lunch for more than an hour. There was a young boy in a shop we went to and, he was very supportive. 

He brought various shoes from the stock as well when my cousin was asking for different sizes and colors. However, in the end, he was very tired and, at that time he wanted us to leave the shop. Finally, she did not have good things to buy though she looked for many shoes. There were several shoe shops there. So, we went to each and every shop and, again, we came to that same shop using another door. The best thing was, he told us 'You all already came here' by looking at our next visit. At that time, we were laughing, but that boy did not even laugh a bit. I think we ended up his entire day and, it was enough for him. He might think that he did not want any more customers like us. Especially my cousin's sister.

In the other incident, sometimes we could have been beaten and, it also happened when I was shopping with that cousin's sister. However, we were lucky to save our lives and return home. On that day, we went to a shopping complex and, bought some clothes. As we wanted to wear and see, we went to fit-on rooms. There were a few chairs to sit and, a boy was sitting over there. He was waiting for his girlfriend and, at that time she was in the fit-on room. So, both of us also sat and waited as all the rooms occupied. Shortly that girl came out with a tight blouse and, asked comments from his boyfriend. However, that boy loved her outfit, and he said that 'Wowww baby, it's really nice for you. Meanwhile, we thought that she won't be able to breathe even. She adjusted her blouse a few times and, looked at the mirror. I thought she did not like that choice. So, she asked for his feedback again. But his response was the same. He said that it should be the selection. We hardly managed their drama at that time, and we could not stop our laugh with his last comment. Then that girl went to the fit-on-room again and, we two kept on laughing like nothing. It made that boy angry and, he looked at us like a devil. We could not look at him and, then we moved out without checking our clothes also. If we waited there for another few minutes, he would blame or hit us. 

As we could not stay there for a long time, we went to another shop in the same shopping complex. Actually, I do not know why we could not manage our laugh. We laughed like crazy fellows. After a few minutes, they also came there. At that time, I did not look at my cousin's face and, we went to two different sections as well to manage the situation. However, we could not stop it at all and, that boy gave his devil look. He was very angry with us, and it increased more when he was looking at our fun and smiley faces. Also at that point, we moved to another section, as his look scared both of us. Unfortunately, we met them in another few shops and, they came to the food court as well once we went there. The same thing happened every time and, he gave his devil look when we were laughing. After that, we thought to leave that shopping complex and, came out to take a taxi. So, there was a higher probability of a murder case or a fight. The thing was we did not forget to laugh and, he did not forget to give that devil look every time we met each other. 


However, his girlfriend was expressionless, and she did not take any action. I think she was intelligent and, she might think that all of us were crazy fellows including his boyfriend also. However, we did the wrong thing and, we should not laugh for other's matters. It is none of our business at all. If it's good for them, why do we worry? However, we had a severe problem of laughing even for serious matters and, those days some of our elders warned us several times. 

Another similar incident happened when I went out with my friend after class. We wanted to buy a printer cartridge and, after that, we did window shopping. Those days it was one of our lovely hobbies. So, we looked at many shops all over the directions. We tried to look at shops on other floors as well. 

Suddenly I knocked over a girl and, the ice-cream she eats was falling down. I did not see her and, there was ice-cream in my shoes as well. It was a very messy incident. Her boyfriend was also there. Though I begged for her excuse, she was very angry with me. So, I said sorry for a few times. But it did not work, and she stares at me like a witch. Her boyfriend also asked her to move. But she did not listen to him. So, we left them without her response. After going a few miles, I looked back again. At that time also, she was staring at us. Then my friend said that they might afford a lot for their ice-cream as foods in that food court were expensive.

There are many shopping memories with my cousin sister. One day we went to a book exhibition and, it was an annual exhibition. Most of the people would like to buy books from this exhibition. You can see the crowd with the youngest to the eldest age ranges. There were many and, most of the time it got more crowded in the last few days of the exhibition. So, we two went to many shops and, bought a few books at that moment. When we were going over there, we saw a shop which sells books for a fifty percent discount. That place was crowded like nothing and, all of them tried to buy books from that shop. So, my cousin's sister also wanted to go there even though I did not want to. 


You know that I do not like crowded places because of that bus incident that happened in my school days. But she held my hand and, dragged me to that shop. However, I could not handle her hand among the crowd and, we separated. At that time, she held the hand of another boy without looking at him and, she thought that it's me. I was laughing like an idiot, and I saw that the boy was trying to get rid of my sister. He was a small fellow and shorter than my sister. After a few minutes, she noticed that the hand she was holding was dragged back in the other direction. Then she looked back and, realized that it's not my hand. It was a shame for her and, she did not want to go to that shop anymore.

When I was coming back home from Colombo, I used to go to at least two shops. I had to take two buses and, once I reached the first part of the destination, I went to a few shops. Most of the time, I had some needs to buy something. Therefore, I took more time to return home as well. The other main problem I had was forgetting the things I wanted after entering into the shopping complex. If I could not bring the list, it happened to me and, I always came with something else that I did not think to buy. 

One day I went shopping alone and, it was not a planned journey. I just wanted to go there by seeing some clothes displayed in the outside dummies. However, finally, I was in the bag section and, there was a nice collection of various types of bags. There were so many beautiful items that I could not imagine what to pick. At that time, that section was not crowded. A foreign couple also was in that section and, that lady was selecting a handbag. After a few minutes, I heard a sound like 'Takas' and, I just figured out something broke. But I did not look back and, continued my selection. So, after a few minutes, that foreign lady came to me and, asked me to open the bag which kept in her hand. According to the way she held the bag and, that 'Takas' sound did not allow me to do that. I thought that she was going to transfer the fault she did when she was trying to open that bag. I assumed that its lock has broken. So, I rejected her request kindly and, asked her to go to a sales-girl who was over there. But she did not go to her. So, it confirmed my assumption. After that, they left that section by keeping that bag there. I did not touch it even.

Later on, I got to know the way we are building up our next ego according to the way we react to the things we see, hear and feel after listening for a "Maha Sinha Nada" Dhamma sermon of Venerable 'Thiththagalle Anandasiri Thero. Actually, I do not know specific Dhamma words to describe it further with you. Basically, if we could see a particular thing and, give up further thoughts we have on that object, then it is a merit. The same logic applies to the things we hear and feel as well. Our next ego builds up according to the thoughts we have now. Now we are also building our next ego by capturing the things via our eyes, ears, tongue, body, and mind. However, this sermon describes the deep concepts of 'Nibbana' in Buddha Dhamma. Dhamma Sermon.

So, I'm trying to keep the mind in a middle position which avoids attractions or sorrows for whatever matter. However, it is not an easy thing to do and, it is kind of a war between you and your thoughts. Sometimes, you may not agree with this concept. However, you can see the relief or relaxation of your mind when giving up your thoughts without thinking further on any object or matter. It would be food, clothes, your spouse, car or anything. It is the concept of living in the current moment without thinking about the past or future. It helps you to concentrate on the things you are working in the present moment.

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21.0 Let's Discuss Horrible Shopping Experiences

Even though I could not imagine how many times I went shopping during my lifetime, several memorable incidents are there to share with you. Out of all most of them are funny and, tired memories. Though we started the journey happily, most of the time it ended up with a severe headache. 

It was that much-tired journey in the end as we spent many hours for shopping. At the start, we thought not to spend more time in one shop if they did not have our wish list. But it never worked. Therefore, once we returned home, we could not speak loudly and, we did not want to move a little bit.

Though it seemed nice at the time we bought, there were certain items that looked ugly once we rechecked those at home. There were at least two such items. So, it brought more pain for the head and legs when I was thinking of exchange even. It requires another effort to go there and, find out other replacements. Sometimes I went to exchange and, it was an additional cost. In all those times, I had to pay more for the exchanged item as always, its price was higher than the previous one. It was a miserable thing I ever had. Therefore, I did not happy about all the bought items, though they were my choices. The same thing happened to my cousins and friends as well. They also faced the same situation. Later on, I wore all the bought clothes and shoes, though I did not like them. Once I told this to one of the friends, he said that it's common for every female including his wife. Furthermore, he pointed out it as a universal issue. Lol... 

Early days, I went shopping with my mother and sister. My father did not join us, though he came to drop us. He stayed in the vehicle and let us spend any time. Because he knew that it was a punishment for him. Every time my mother fed up with us by spending a few hours and, said that it was her last shopping journey with us. However, she came for next time as well. Later on, she sat on a chair in the shop and, let us select whatever we liked once she finished her shopping. However, we could go for a maximum of three to four shops once we went with my mother. Though we did not buy our desired things, she did not want to spend any single minute after exceeding that threshold. As well as she could not tolerate when we were checking the same stuff again and again. So, she noticed it as an unnecessary time we spent on the same things and, said that there's no point in checking the same stuff. We said that we wanted to make sure that we did not miss anything good for us. However, she did not accept those as excuses and asked us to leave the shop if there were no things to buy without idling. 

Later on, we two went alone without my mother. We asked her to stay at home and, she also loved our suggestion. Sometimes she gave her list and asked us to bring those things for her. So, we went to any number of shops we wished and stayed there for long hours without looking at our watches even. 

We went to ten to twelve shops sometimes and, bought what we want. My sister was a good shopping partner, and we two have the same limits. Once it exceeded, we decided to stop shopping. However, both of us came back home like zombies and, we were tired like nothing. As the first thing, we showed the new items to my mother. After that, we two shared the bill, according to the money we spent on each other. As usual, we got various responses from our mother, and she did not like some of the things we bought. There was an era where I wore different varieties of blue color. Those days most of my clothes were a blue color. So, my mother did not like it at all and, she said that she will throw away if I bought anymore blue color clothes. She gave that warning every time when we were going outside. Our grandmother also agreed on the same by expanding it for 'Black color as well. As her eyesight was weak those days, she saw all the other dark colors like black color. Apart from that color issue, both of them asked us to return home quickly without spending unnecessary time in the shops. So, once we returned, they said that 'Oh no. Did you spend the whole day to buy these few items? What did you do for the entire day men? If I spent that time, I would buy clothes for the rest of my lifetime.

So, it was pathetic to hear their comments. After that, we did not disclose some items with them. However, we had to listen to their comments as we could not hide those when we were going outside. Then they said that 'Hey, I did not see your outfit before. When did you buy this? It's too tied, okayyy. This color is very dark and not suitable for you. Those were some comments they gave.

My father's younger brother was a good companion for us to do shopping. He supported us and, did not have a hurry to go back. He did not get tired and, visited any number of shops without a limit. One day I think we visited nearly twenty shops to buy sarees, some costumes and shoes for a wedding. As all of our selections were different, we had to go to that many shops to specially buy sarees. At that time, I could not wear saree properly. So, one sales guy in the shop helped me to wear and select. He understood that I could not wear it by myself according to the way I followed up. So, he helped me a lot. Meantime, he asked me to get ready from the early morning as I might take a couple of hours to wear the saree. On that day also, our uncle ("Bappa") was there with us and, supported all of us to select our sarees including costumes. So, when we had a family event, my father and father's elder brother sent him with us. I think it was a great relief for them as they did not want to bear up that pain when he was there with us. They did not even worry about the number of hours we spent shopping. So, our uncle spent more time when he was buying anything for himself as well. He went to all the possible shops until he found the desired thing. It applied for everything and, he visited many girls to find out his bride as well. 

Because of this habit, when he was a school student, he had a nickname called 'Town guy' ('Town Banda'). My father always said that it was the most suitable nickname for him, though he called him 'Professor Calculus'. He used that name to save his contact details as well. So, when two brothers are going outside, my father never let him go to a shop as he knew his selection procedure. One day, when we were going on a trip, there was an area which was a well-known place for the fish market. At that time, my father asked him to buy some fish and meantime, asked him to come soon. We waited for nearly an hour, but he did not come back. Then my father went to find him and, at that time also he did not buy anything. He blamed and dragged him back to the vehicle.

A few days I went shopping with my cousin and my father's elder brother. It was for a family wedding. Though we had a big list to buy, our uncle ("Loku Thaththa") wanted to buy all the stuff from the first place. It needed to be done very fast too. So, he asked us to come back soon. Meanwhile, he shouted and reminded the list of other work he needs to be done within the rest of the day. However, we wanted to select our wish list somehow. Later on, we ignored him and, moved to some other areas of the shop when he was trying to contact us. It increased his anger and blamed us when returning back. Like the others, he also warned that it was his last shopping journey with us.

One day I went to an office to take some support materials for my degree certificate. At that time, they asked me to wait for a few minutes. Additionally, they said that they need their chief's approval. At that time, that lady was not there. So, I thought to go to a nearby shop during this idle time though I did not have money to buy anything at that time. I just wanted to do window shopping. So, I just checked a few clothes and, noted that the price was very high. All were very expensive. As I wanted to spend time, I just walked over the floors by visiting the items without buying anything. So, one sales guy came to me and, asked, 'Ma'm what did you look for?. At that time, I thought that they do not have party wears. So, as I did not buy anything, I said that I was looking for party wears, but it is not available. Then he said 'No ma'am it is on our next floor and, he asked me to come with him. I felt sorry for my self and, went with him. I checked a few of frocks and, he also supported me to select. They were expensive like nothing. After a few minutes, I said to him that my choice is not available and, left that shop as soon as possible. 

For the moment, I received much feedback from you all for my written blog posts. Thank you very much for your kind responses. It is a great pleasure for me. If you could mention your country, then it would be an amazing feeling for me to know that I have global friends. However, it is up to you, and I respect your choice. 

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