What do you think about revealing everything you think of? What will happen? Let's say there is no gate to approve your thoughts, and you are telling your thoughts. I think some do have two approval levels. What do you think about this topic? I think, if I did so, then I can have many enemies. Lol... How about you?
Don't you think that you did it before? Though you cannot remember, you did it. When? Think about your childhood. When you were a kid, did not you tell what you thought? But nobody cares about it, because you were a kid. So, it was not an issue for anybody. Therefore, it was one instance. Can you remember such an incident that happened in your childhood? I think it would be an interesting one to share.
When I was a kid, I did it many times. Though it was not a problem, I think all those situations made my parents embarrassed. Most of the time, it happened to my mother. The first incident that comes to mind is a granny who lived in our neighborhood. At that time, we were having a bath in the river. She also was there. As a granny, she gave lots of instructions to us regarding suitable times for a bath, how should we have a bath as kids, etc... So, she pointed out some points for me too. However, I could not listen to her instructions anymore, and I asked her to mind her business without look after us. Furthermore, I pointed out that it is not her duty. When she heard it, she was shocked, and could not speak a single word for a few minutes. After a while, she laughed and said, "ok... sure".
Some of them in the river laughed for my response. They enjoyed that discussion. It made me happy. But my mother did not like that response. At that point, she pointed out that it is not a good thing. When we returned home, she advised me a lot. However, I did not feel sad about that granny. I did not regret my response. Later on, I met her on the road when we were going to visit our granny. Then she reminded my response, and at that time, I felt shy. It was a big shame. So, from time to time, I met her. She did not forget to remind it every time we met. She did not forget to show her wide smile too. However, each time was an embarrassing moment for me.
Regarding the elders, I think it happens to most of the drunk people. I think their actual inner feelings come up to some extent. That higher approval gate is closed when they are talking. That is why the others are enjoying their discussions. If you can listen to them to analyze this point, then you can identify the actual human. However, you may have to listen to their various topics including, politics, love, family, job matters, etc... to observe it. The things they have hidden in the topmost layer of the mind are coming out. It is enjoyable to see that process. One day there was a gathering, and the organizers arranged all the stuff to eat and drink. One couple came to the party, and those two were in their old ages. So, when the gent was completed a few glasses, her wife wanted to stop it. Therefore, from time to time, she went to him and asked him to stop. Every time, he asked her to leave saying, "get out bitch".
He had a pleasant and gentleman's appearance. So, if somebody did not see that situation, then he will have a good image of him. However, that point is not sufficient to make a decision, and sometimes he may be quarreled with his wife in the morning before coming to the party. However, what I wanted to point out is the closure of that gate. So, that is a situation where the people do not think about the accuracy or compatibility of their thoughts before expressing as words. Therefore, I think the closure of that gate in the drunk people's minds is unpleasant. Lol... So, be careful when you are talking if you are drunk. There was one of our office colleagues. He was very silent when he was drunk. I think he has learned lots of lessons. Lol...
The other instance is born when you are angry. It is a familiar thing for me. Lol... Think about the things you said when you were angry. Recently, I saw a quote, and it says, if you want to regret later, then speak when you are angry. I think it is a good statement. It is true. I don't think that I should give any examples to prove this point. You may have enough incidents. However, apart from the closure of that gate, the required thoughts are not born in this situation. So, it messed up your entire thinking pattern. Therefore, when you are speaking in an angry moment, a few things happen. The first is, you are not rechecking the thoughts before expressing as words. The other thing is, the mind generates only shit, and required thoughts don't come to your mind. So, all shit comes out without the approval. The gate is open. What a marvelous situation, right? Lol...
I think it happens for lovers too. That gate is overwhelmed by the warmth of love. If you can rewind a past conversation you had, then you can rethink whether you can implement the things you said at that time. Is it practical to do now? Though it does not have a bad face like the previous situation, I think it breaks the promises you made. So, guys, keep in mind to approve your thoughts before releasing them as words.
However, even with the approval also, you should keen on your words before sharing with anybody. Recently, I saw a FB video. In that video, there is a conversation with two ladies, and one person is recording it secretly without informing the other lady. The person who is recording does not talk much except Yeah, No, Hmmm, etc... So, she embarrassed her by releasing it to the internet. Though it is a bit different thing than this topic, I wanted to add it as it may be useful for you all to know these situations.
